Why Get Married???

I have been married for all most two years now, and my husband and I have two children together. I think marriage is a wonderful way for two people to show each other and the world that they have committed themselves to each other. Whenever there are children involved I think marriager is important for legal reasons as well, as it makes things a lot more complicated in regards to purchasing a house, retirement accounts, health insurance etc. Before my husband and I was married, we often encountered problems such as not being able to share the same insurance policy etc. I also think that it means a lot for the children to know that their parents are married, as it shows them that their parents are going to be together forever. I realize as this is not necessarily true, as the divorce rates are climbing all over the world, but I still think that a married couple will work harder to make things work, than an unmarried couple, simply because there is a lot of legal work included. I know that in my husband's home country of Jamaica a lot of parents do not get married, and I have seen many cases where a single mother has 4 or 5 children with two or more different men. This makes me think that it has been too easy for the men to take up and leave, whenever they felt like it. Marriage does not necessarilly have to take place as a part of religion, but it can be done in a beautiful ceremony by a major, and it still shows that the couple have committed themselves to each other.

I've been asked that same question so many times. I've only been married for more than a month and my friends are wondering why I decided to get married. They think I'm too young for that. One thing I feel I'm on the right age and I'm ready for it. Secondly, I found the right man for me. Someone that I started out as a friend with whom I can share all my insecurities and fears. He was a friend for a long time and still is aside from being my hubby. If you love someone and you feel you're ready then it's best to get married. Also it makes everything legal and it shows everyone that you're committed to someone. It makes you work harder when you have someone to share it with who is close to your heart.

Let's see...I've been married for almost a year. I love it so far, but it is hard. A lot harder than I believed it would be, but if you're with the right person it's all worth it. There's just something I see as very special when both my husband and I run into a problem...no longer am I alone but I have someone to face and fight the problem with me. My husband and I always say 'it's us against the world' and some days it really feels like that! Our first year has not gone in any way as we planned (he's in the army so go figure!) but we've made the best of it and have grown much closer as a result. Good perspective...looking on the bright side of things...always makes marriage a little easier and more enjoyable. Going into my marriage...I had no idea I would experience all that I have. I got married because I was in love but I have developed a best friend whom I love more dearly every day. I didn't get married on love alone...my husband and I share a lot of common interests and goals in life. It is important to have a good solid foundation to build on...you're love will continue to thrive if you do along with compromise and understanding.