begging for best response
favors
mylot members
people
something in return
taking advantage of ewbies
People asking for something in return..
By raijin
@raijin (10345)
Philippines
April 9, 2007 2:23am CST
I'm just wondering about this, because I've seen this happening all the time. Sometimes, misunderstandings is the cause of ending a good friendly relationship we have. Sometimes, it also causes favoring others and neglecting the one's who mostly needed the help that we should've given to them.
As for here in mylot, I've seen a certain member here who asks for something in return. It's begging for a a response they've made to be chosen as best, which for me, is very unfair to the whole community. I've seen this twice, and that the member seems to take advantage to some of the newbies here.
I won't tell a name here, so I will just ask of your views about this. As I know that that certain user is quite popular to some of it's friends, and I don't want to cause any misunderstandings here. So I hope that you won't get offended, or even your friends.
So how do you find this approach of that certain member, are you with it or against? I know that there's no rules applied about this issue, so I'm consulting you good mylot members and ask your views about this.
Is this fair to beg, take advantage of a certain user to make their posts to be chosen as the best response, even if the response is not that relevant to the topic?
Thanks, good day to all..
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27 responses
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
9 Apr 07
Mylot should have rules for those things.
I saw it a few times also, and i think it contradict the whole idea of the mylot website as a discussion website.
Lately, i have seen other things that i do not agree with, here in mylot. members promote other sites with a one ot two line sentences. they plead for people to join them.
they are not even opening a discussions about other sites, ot things that has to with the issue of their topic, they just ask in a one sentence line, for people to do somthing.
i really think that mylot should look into those posts, and rule them out.
I also think that they should add in the mylot guide lines, more things that are not to be allowed to do, here in mylot.
Those people, with those topics, are not a quality users, here in mylot.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I'm glad that you've seen also that, but I am not sure if we're talking about the same person here. And how I wish to know too;)
Let's just expect that it will all be deleted, because I trust mylot that they are doing their best to accomodate us all and rid of unhelpful topics here.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
10 Apr 07
plus our rating shouldn't affect pay
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@sweetsue (758)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Wow, I wouldn't do that!LOL
I think some people here are going kinda insane about this stuff. As for me, I'm taking things lightly.In fact I don't resent whenever I'm getting a very few responses with every posts that I made. One response is never bad for me.
If anyone would ask me that, I'll have to scrutinize his/her work first..haha.kinda mean, what do you think? If, in case, his/her response didn't move me a bit, I will really have to turn him/her down politely. I'll give my mark to someone who is more deserving.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I don't find rudeness if you would really approach that certain person, because I feel like it's an insult to our intelligence to just receive something like that kind of dictatory remarks.
That's good, give the mark to those of which we know is more deserving and not because a certain member has told it to do so.
Luckily, I don't have that person my friends list!;)
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@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
asking something in return or a favor as the case may be is deemed okay if both parties agreed to deal on something that would benefit them both. not necessarily in this particular case you mentioned where he wants you to mark his response in favor of him. i am much into doing this kind of asking favor on online programs, mostly referral ones, that is if someone happens to be my referrer would invite me to join his program and in return inviting him also to enroll in my program. other than this case, i closed my doors to them. It's BRIBERY already. LOL
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@ozzydee70 (465)
• Germany
9 Apr 07
we have diffrent views in every discussions we want to response and its up with the one who started the discussion to chose what he/she think the best response. we are here to have fun and earn a bit at the same time. we're not here to outwin other person.
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@ozzydee70 (465)
• Germany
9 Apr 07
you cant please everybody as the saying goes. in some cases you can have an instinct what their true attitude is..
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@catwoman1075 (23)
• Thailand
9 Apr 07
I think that this person has a shallow principle in life. He/she doesn't understand the real meaning of accomplishing something by exerting an effort. That's what he's/she's happy about. I'm not going to go down to his/her level.
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@GardenGerty (160704)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I am sorry, but this is one of the few things that I will rate a - for, as it is hurting the entire community and is a bad and unfair habit. I do not rate - for differing opinions, but for being off topic or not playing fair, I will give that -. I would not tell you you have to do so as well, it is just my opinion.
@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
oh,is that true? i dont have any idea who is that but anyway my opinion is that is definitely true that in life there are people who had bad intention. i mean a motive. Some people make friends because they are expecting something in return which actually not really good. As for here in mylot, Asking or begging to be chosen as best response is very embarrassing. She or he should realize that.
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I have never received a request of that kind, but if I do, I might consider if the response really makes any sense. But for the one requesting such, perhaps it will not have a good feeling even if he/she was rated out of request. poor fellow.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
An intelligent mylot member does not have to vary his/her choice by getting demands to mark their response as best, by the responder.
Everyone should what quality post means and that they should choose a response which stands from the rest, and not because someone told them so..
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I don't understand why there are some of us here who are so anxious about getting their responses to be marked best response. It may do us well if we bear in mind that even if we do our best in making each response, it is highly probable that there is someone who can come up with a much better one. Also, if we feel that it was a lousy one we did, chances are there is someone else who had done worse. Most of us, usually fall within the midrange, and that is a fact of life. For others to be begging that their responses be marked as the best one, if I were the originator of the discussion, I'd surely disregard it when choosing the best one.
All of us who have been around for sometime already, know that it is with some difficulty that we choose the best response. So many good responses are given by the mylotians and at times it takes good effort sizing up all the entries that comes in.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I think it is because they want to make a fool out of themselves, as they think they are the best. But in reality, they are like insects looking for something to suck upon.
I find this person telling 'only' the newbies to mark the response it made as best, and of course that person wouldn't dare say that on someone like us 'oldies'!;)
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@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Well, I am answering this directly from my e-mail notification so, please forgive me if I have duplicated what someone else has said, ( and, yes, I do know that it is against the guidelines to do this so feel free to give me a negative marking).
I think that is despicable. Furthermore, it is againt the guidelines so if I see it I will certainly give that person a negative rating!
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
Don't worry, I don't give negatives, especially to my friends. Actually, that person is not on my friend's list and didn't even responded to any of my posts, I just came across at it. I've reported that mylot user, and am now waiting for the result.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
10 Apr 07
I would certainly have some expectations of what constitutes a best response. If the discussion happen to have only 1 response, I would think that by default, the response should be the best response if the owner of the discussion resolves it.
If there are few discussions, of course, merit does it. I give best response based on how well the response was made, its clarity and its relevance, and reasons to support the motion, if any. I am certainly not one to be bribed into giving a best response. So if a person "begs" for best response, I would certainly read it as a kidding statement, and does not mean anything to me ;P
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
Yes, but if you only knew how many times this person got BR's just for that statement, then you would probably wonder what that person's motive was about.
Because for me, no matter how hard I or long I put my post, I won't even dare say that to anyone here. Especially to newbies, who are not yet that well-informed of how the system works here.
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@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 07
Yes, I look mylot can make website unfair to the whole community, Because to have good star sometimes we must making as though.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
I know you don't have that person on your list, so I think we're both lucky because we're safe for the meantime!;)
That certain member is bribing other members, especially newbies, by telling them it rated their post and demanding to rate a best response for their posting. I think I better call it disctating, and not demanding. As I've seen most of the time, that person was the very possible responder that has gotten the BR mark.
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@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
11 Apr 07
This is a very bad practice either in mylot or in real life, I hate it when a friend asks for something they don't deserve (taking it away from those who deserve it) because they are your friend.. In my early days in mylot I saw hints from people that I should give them best response and I saw people asking openly to be rated positive saying "I rated you a + please do the same for me".. Although I do rate positive anyone who respond with a good or half-good response to my discussions but I hate it when someone asks for it.. I think asking for a "best response" openly on the boards should be reported as an abuse.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
I sure saw this one, and I'm glad that this person's not even on my list. I hate to see people do those things here, because it is not a good practice not only on this site but also in real life.
Yes, that is exactly what I saw the person said on the response it made. It's really sickening, so I reported it!;)
@happymommy3 (2012)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Oh I think it is very unfair. But, I would think though that people would be more smarter and not give these people best responses when begging for it. I know exactly what you are talking about, I've seen one person in particular also, with newbies, basically being WAY to nice that's it's obvious they're trying to get "something" in return. I don't think that it's okay. It's one thing when you are just responding in a friendly matter but at times it's so obvious they're being a little too nice, and this one person I've seen has even mentioned in ALOT of her responses to the newcomers, not to forget to rate and mark best responses. I haven't really had too many if I can remember, responses like that but when I do come across them I will just ignore it or maybe make a comment about their response if it's just obvious they want something back but most of us here should already know you really should give the best response to one who really deserves it.
@jc_star10 (953)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 07
I will never do that though, i guess everyone have their own opinions about this community. For me, beside earn money by posting here..(which is actually the main reason i came to this site in first place), but it's also place for you to create friends and give your thought. I don't see it as place for me to earn money anymore, I see it more like place for me to typing what i thought. Whether it becomes best response or not, i don't really care about it. All i know, what i write on my respond discussions, all are coming from my mind and my thought purely. I haven't see any members that did that, but it's up to them.
@meiyi_iceworld (112)
• Singapore
11 Apr 07
For this question, that will have to depend on the person itself. Some people do ask for something in rteturn if you ask them for help. I feel that when coming to help others, you should help them unconditionally not with conditions attached. I won't respect this kind of people.
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