trying to have another baby, bad thoughts

i didn't so much think that. i more thought i was cheating my daughter by having another. i felt like then she wouldn't get as much love and attention. but we had another one and it came out fine. we both give them lots of love and attention. if you are a good parent to one then you deserve more healthy ones :)

I never thought about any of that stuff. I got pregnant when my oldest was 6 months but we weren't trying. She was 15 months old when my son was born and I wouldn't change it for anything. Or the fact that I got pregnant again when he was only 4 months old. He is 13 months older then his little sister. I had 3 kids in 2 years 4 months time and it was the best thing that ever happened. They are 6 1/2, 5 1/2 and 4 now and are best of friends. I love having them so close together. Our youngest was born last April and she is 3 1/2 years younger then our middle daughter and it was crazy bringing her home and now I feel guilty that she won't have a sibling close in age to her. Her brother and sisters have each other and she is all by herself. They don't always want to play with her so she is going to be left out a lot.

Just remember it's always a risk. Making a baby is an amazing, miraculous journey. I mean, you are literally the vessel that brings a soul from one place to another... children are our teachers as much as we are theirs, and if you have a baby that is less than healthy you will most likely be able to accept it and grow through it, loving it all the same. Not to say that you should be worried, just saying that there are no guarantees with children. We conceive them in faith and raise them in love, hoping for the best. I wonder all the time if the baby in my belly is healthy and perfect in there... I wonder if he will have some sort of problem that will be a challenge for us. But I know deep down that if I were given a special child, I would be exactly what that child needs, and I would handle it beautifully because I am strong. Good luck trying to conceive... stay healthy and put your fears in perspective. The odds of having a perfect, healthy baby are certainly in your favor!

I know how you feel. Even though I have agreed with my husband to try again to have one more baby, I worry that if I do become pregnant the baby won't be normal and healthy. All I can do is hope and pray that the baby WILL be fine and try not to fret about it, but that's not always easy to do.

I think it's nice to have more than 1 child. my partner & i originally wanted 2 kids, then after our first i thought 3 would be great but my other half thinks he'd feel bad if we had a 2nd baby coz our daughter might feel betrayed or replaced. Nothing could ever replace her, she's my little angel! I reckon that if you want another baby remember you're not only doing it for yourself & your family, your son will have someone to grow up & old with, to play with & share loads of fun times with. The fact that your son will always have someone there with him when he's old & grey would mean the world to him. I am so grateful to have siblings :) Good Luck!

You poor thing. You need to change your way of looking at it! Rather than asking for a baby for yourself, you are asking for a healthy playmate for your child. The age gap is perfect to allow them to be close and share things. Everything will be absolutely fine.

Well i just look at it as my babies are my babies, healthy or disabled, they're special to me individually! If god blesses me with a healthy child, then why wouldn't he bless me with another?

i have a son age 3. when my husband brought up topic of having 2nd child, i feel so sad. i feel that, i couldnt share my love to my 2nd child and i dont want my son to feel unsecure cos he is so attached to me. relatives, friends etc keep on telling me that its ok to have another one but i feel reluctant. i dont know how to share the love as i have already giving all my love to my only son. kinda confuse now..