Your children and when people talk about them......

One thing I've learned since becoming a mom is that lots of people feel the need to give unwanted advice. I've just learned to take things with a grain of salt. If someone tells me something that is blantantly rude I will kindly let them know I didn't appreciate that and I can handle things on my own. But if someone is genuinely trying to just help I'll either take the advice if I think it's good or just nod my head and listen and do my own thing.

Unfortunately, there are really people who likes to think they know better. And i honestly dont like it when people tells me what to do or how i should raise my kids. I am confident that i am doing the best i can and my kids are doing just fine if not better than most. What i do in such situations differs on the person who dares to comment - when its my mother-in-law i have to talked back and tell her straight that i have taken care of my kids since birth and theyr doing fine in every aspect as she can see. when its a friend i just listen and say something in my defense in a friendly terms. when its a stranger - i simply pretend not to hear. I am actually the type who simply doesnt care what the world think or say...

Yes...this has happened to me. A little advise is fine and I got plenty of that when my son was younger. However...I take offense to people who make generalized comments on my son or the way he acts etc. They don't know my son and they don't know the way I raise him...so I don't appreciate those kind of comments. I think people should look at thier own lives and children before they start commenting on others...

i don't mind others making comments or suggestions. It's their opinion. But I don't necessarily follow them.

This must have happened to all parents. I follow only one formula for this. I listen to what the person has to tell. Then I think about it. When I find time at home to be able to have some private moments with my child, I take it up with him/her. I listen to what he/she has to say about what I've heard. Then if it is true, I have to know why it happened and I expect to hear him/her say sorry plus the promise that it will never happen again. If my child says it is not true, I believe my child's word over anyone else, he/she gets my support and I'll stand by her/him. This is perfectly effective. My children never hide anything from me. They all know that for me, talking it out solves the problem best.

it depends of who does this to me. if it is a good friend i listen and answer. if its a totally stranger i look at him, wait till he finished talking and ask him if it was his business. that stops them mostly to do it. i just overhear it, because there are always some on the way, who have to clean for their own door, before they judge another one and that without knowing the facts. we use to say its always easier to clean the strangers dust than the own. i never let people go at my kids with unwanted support. i am proud of my kids and they do good (well most of the time lol). and thats what matters for me

I personally feel people need to mind their own business when it comes to other peoples children. He without fault cast the first stone. You show me a perfect child at any age. Plus after a certain age they are on their own and responsible for what they do. Thing is the way I look at things is I can talk about my family but no one else better.

I agree some people are very critical of others children and family. I think it is because it is easier to see someone elses faults than to fix their own! I always take things personally when someone critisizes my children because they are an extension of me. I also try to take any good advice on board and use it to help if I can...

I live in a neighborhood of whom mostly are my aunts and cousins in my father side. Every morning or once every day we'll have chit chats in one of the backyards. We usually talk about our kids and how they are behaving and misbehaving. I am open for suggestions especially from my aunts when it comes to raising my kids because they've been there and they know a lot than me. They might criticize some of my kids' behavior but they will also suggest what's best to do about it. We only have two choices to react, negatively or positively. I chose to react positively.

We don't like people will say our children are bad.Always we think about our children are very good.I also don't like it.I proud of my children.