If you find out your wife cheated on you, and at least one kid wasn't yours.....

I think this is one of those situations that makes you look down deep inside yourself, to me being a parent is not just about the biology. It takes more that genetics to be a great parent, I know it is hard to think a child is yours and find out later that he or she isnt but does that mean that the child should be punished for what their parent did. For most men in this situation they cut bait and run, and then thare are the few that stick around realizing that they are all that child knows. Me personally I would continue to raise the child, pay the support and later on down the line when my child asked me why i stayed i would tell them that i am their parent and no blood test can take that from them.

If I were a guy and found out my wife cheated on me, and at least one kid is not mine, I would probably want to still claim the kids that are not biologically mine, especially because it would seem that I would be their legal father anyway...and I would be attached to them. Its not fault of kids...I would divorce my wife and sue for full custody of all kids. I'd go for child support from my exwife.

The kids were raised by you up to now. Don't tell me that you feel that they aren't your kids now that you learned you are not the biological father. I think you are not right to that. If you feel that the mother is unsuitable to raise the children then go ahed and ask the custody. For all of them. After all they all call you "father". If you think that it is ok for her to have the children, then pay for all of them child support. I already told you... they all call you "father". Be a father!

I've often wondered how just such a nightmare might feel if I were a guy who had to go through it.. Sad, so sad.. Is all I've ever come up with.. If the woman wanted forgiveness and I really thought she was going to be faithful, I'd try to keep the family together.. if it was a no go.. I suppose it might depend upon how much money I made.. maybe just a room for me.. Cause I'm thinking it would cost lots..

That's a hard one to deal with, but ultimately its not the kid's fault. It's easy to say just divorce her and not worry about supporting any of the kids other than just yours (legally you that's all you'd be responsible for), but you've become bonded with the children and have loved them and still love them. It's not their fault your wife is messed up. I would probably want to go after the real father for child support, but I wouldn't know what I'd do until it happened. I believe strongly in forgiveness, but being cheated on isn't an easy one to live with either. Not sure.

If I were a guy and I found out the kids that I'd been raising as my own weren't mine, I probably wouldn't pay child support for them anymore if we knew who the real father was. If we didn't know who the real father was and they would be without a father, I would probably still raise them so they wouldn't have to grow up without a father figure. It isn't the kids fault after all.

Well..as for child support i would only pay for my kids..let the other father pay forthe other child..i dont feel its your reponsibility..And i would deff go for split custody of my children..i dont think you will be able to get any custody of the child thats not your unless you adopted him..i wish you the best luck with your probs hun..

I read somewhere a good while back that a good few married women (at least in the UK) didn't know if their partner was actually the father of one of their children. I think it was somewhere around 17% which is quite amazing. If I was the guy it would be tough, especially if you really love the child and have a great relationship with it. I think I'd have to get away for a while and think it all through. It would also depend on whether or not the biological father was on the scene.

I would pay the child support for my children only...I would have DNA testing done to make sure that I only supported my own children. Hope that you resolve your issue. Take care...