is it wrong to start falling out of love for distant relationships?
By daryljane
@daryljane (3406)
Philippines
April 10, 2007 3:55am CST
i dont know what im feeling right now..my partner has been out of the country for 4 months now..i mean it has always been like this, even before we met, he is already working abroad, spend a couple of months with me then goes back abroad, then the baby came, still i cant decide to get married,no matter how much he say he already wanted to settle down..
the thing is, everytime he is away, im loving the freedom that im getting...although he know what im doing and where i am, and im definitely not cheating on him for another man, it just that when he is away, i find it peaceful and i like it..is it wrong? am i being unfair to him already?
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6 responses
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
i think you are still not married to him thats why you feel that you have the freedom if your partner is away.I think it is normal because he is not with you, as long as you are still faithful to him, there is no problem with it. The only thing that will be unfair is that you have someone new and you love that other person than him, in other words, you will be unfair if you are having an affair. It is ok that you are peaceful without him, atleast you can handle things on your own, but be sure to take care of him when he is with you, i think he deserveds that.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
thanks for that..honstly, im not cheating on him..maybe im not over being single yet..
@Shadenfrauder (355)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
Absence does to love what a wind does to a flame - it fans strong passion, and blows off weak ones.
That being said, it is not wrong to fall out of love over relationships where absence is almost always inevitable. It merely shows that in the long run, that love will not survive, because that love is not true love.
I'm being presumptuous here, but if you want to know, go somewhere where no one knows you and mull over it. After all, you are, in a way, being unfair to your partner - if it really turns out that you're not on love with him anymore and you're staying because you're used to it.
Just.. think about what you really feel, dear.
Have a lovely day. \m/^_^
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
well, yes, im use to the situations that were still together inspite the distance but im not needing someone to fill in the space..im just enjoying being single and have fun..i dont think that a mistake after all..is being single a sin?
@amar_sandy1987 (1876)
• India
10 Apr 07
i dont think so but u ll have to do some thing i mean u should remove some solution for ths problem for future plannings so what r u thinking just do it for whom u r watting for dear just catch him and tell him and do it?
@julaqq (141)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
I feel for you daryljane. I know it's hard to be away from your beloved. There's always a reason for everything. Not getting married for now may be a blessing in your life. Perhaps, this is the time to enjoy your life being single, a chance to do the things you dreamed of doing or perhaps you'll get to meet your true love. Who knows? So long you are enjoying yourself and what you do is right, everything will fall into place with God's plan for your eternal happiness.
@hi1234 (175)
• India
10 Apr 07
hi...
no u r not unfair to him.i think that normally if one of the pair is away one misses him or her.but in ur case its not like that.u feel free from him.why??
is he too boring or does he bind u with him all the time he is with u?he must be too possesive,and wanting u with him always.u both should understand each other nature and ur demands.if ur love is mature enough and if the person whom u r loving is a bit mature too then u should discuss this problem with him and not on the net.
