What do you do of their stuffs after people die??
By mariyamaka
@mariyamaka (931)
India
April 10, 2007 4:40am CST
I was just wondering that what will my family do about my stuffs after i die??
Here i am not talking about cloths and jewels or anything such! Am talking about personal things like my book, my CD's, gifts which my friends and family has given me and are dear to me! and many such little things we have!
how do family members discard it away?? do they keep it? but then for how long?
few months back i lost one of my dear friend! i visited her parents yesterday after her death... because going to her house was really difficult for me and i did not wanted to cry in front of her parents and depress them too!so yesterday i made myself strong and went... i did not see anything of hers around not even her posters was on her walls and her room was totally empty... i did not had heart to ask her parents what they did with her stuffs? so i left! and made me wonder what everyone does?
Have you been in such sitiuation?
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13 responses
@koikoikoi (1246)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Well if I see things they have that I like I get them and keep them. Or else I just sell them.
@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
10 Apr 07
This is a good discussion. I have thought about his like who will get my computer? My poems I have written? will the even care about my poems and save them or discard them....? I have just one son and I would hope that he would be able to go through all my posessions and choose wht it is he would like to keep. My gramps jsut passed away and fortunately he had a will. I do not. So maybe that is something for me to think about perhaps?
@mariyamaka (931)
• India
10 Apr 07
Exactly.... thinking about it only made me start this discussion!!! i think next thing we should do is make a will... lol!
• United States
10 Apr 07
People usually see if they have a will or something....complete that then just give the rest away if they can.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
10 Apr 07
Normally, someone "senior" enough would go through the belonging. What can be salvaged or reused might be kept. Those really personal things might still be kept if they are precious enough to remind them of you. Else, they might just be discarded or burned, perhaps.
Just put yourself in the shoes of one sorting out the items left by another. What do you do? It's quite the same, just the flip side of the coin now.
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
10 Apr 07
well havent been in this situation, and i wouldnt like to be either, but everyone deals with grief differently.
i would personally keep my family member stuff, and look after it for them as it was my own stuff.
@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
10 Apr 07
I have never thought of that but I would assume that most things would be distributed among the family but unwanted items I sure would be discarded.
@gvnath2007 (84)
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10 Apr 07
Yes.non other than my elder brother,.He was english professor and marxist economist in Delhi .He devoted his life time for reading books and writing esseys,reviews and analysis in magazine (in thousands )After retirement he broughtall his collection of rare books covering social sciences, history english literature and so. He wanted to start a research centre under his guidance.He has built a good building also for the said purpose.Unfortunately he expired due to carcenoma. All his belonging were kept in the building under lock and key forthe lt 12 years.Wehave nothing to do with those books and nobody is capable of using them. The entire belongings have been kept as museum but of no use. what we have to do./We could not throw them out as they are very valuable (insecurable0It is still as such
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
10 Apr 07
we usually find out if they have a will..if they do,we distribute their things per their wishes,then if other family members wish a keepsake of the person,we give those out.the rest is donated to charity if it is still useful.
i've had to take care of several houses of elderly
relatives that have passed.
it is very sad when it is empty.
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
10 Apr 07
I am accustomed to whenever someone close passes away we will give people something of theirs to keep as a memory. I have several items that my grandma, aunts, and so forth have made. I am keeping these items to pass on to my children. I will tell them all about the person who made it.
@kteja_86 (293)
• India
10 Apr 07
Hm...the answer to this question depends on the nature of the family,and how dear the person is to them...some people trash out all the belongings coz they dont want anything to remind them of the person(coz they are so dear to the person),while some people jus leave all the things the way they r coz they feel the person is still with them!
@meiyi_iceworld (112)
• Singapore
10 Apr 07
I would pack and keep them for my memory sake because they are important to me. For some people i know, they throw way their their stuff after they passed away because they say that they don't want to keep them after all they passed away already, but if the person is somebody you love very much, of course we want to keep them for as long as we live unless we never love them at all.
