Should I get involved?

how do you feel for each other?do you like him or just take him as a friend?its always ok to meet up someone you think is nice and reliable.age gap shouldnt be considered as a problem.i met an online pal who is 10 years older than me(or more),and we had a good time talking and wandering,and now we still keep in touch.in ur case,i think if you both have known each other for a long time and chatted a lot,then you should go to meet him up.

what about meet him and see what happens? age doesnt really matter when both understand each other well. does he know the age difference? just try it and see. it doesnt hurt to meet and drink a coffe together and talk in real. maybe you gain a good friend or even more, maybe you see it was a waste of time. good luck

age does not matter at all...go and meet him up and see how things go from there. Don't be so pressured into being involved into a long term thing...take it one step at a time. And if your concern is on the online stuff, don't! i met my bf from online too...and now, we're still in a very loving relationship and he's the best guy ever! Good Luck!

Its up to you, but if you go, do it safely, Like meeting at a mall and keeping the visits at public places for awhile. I don't know, I guess if you feel comfortable with it, go ahead. Maybe take a friend along, or have a friend watch the situation from afar, just in case!

wow.. he's younger than you by 17 years? that's alot.. but it's okay if you truly love him.. im not sure if im in the right topic.. i might read wrongly =) .. go on with what u feel u're comfortable with

Seventeen years younger? He is still legal, so I say do ya thing, Ms. Cougar. But if he's interested in you just because you're celibate.... yeah issues.

There's no harm in meeting up with him as long as it's in a safe, public place. Seventeen years is quite an age difference but sometimes these things work out ok. If you get along well then that's all that matters really. Just be cautious and level-headed and see how it goes. If you do decide to meet him good luck - I hope it works out well.

I feel age is only a number.You both are grown and he is legal age so everything is okay with the age. I think meeting each other will be fine.I think you should meet in a public place where there are plenty of people and see where it goes from there.

If u decide to meet him, just make sure that u meet him in a public place.. Maybe just for coffie or so. I have met alot of people from the internet, but always in public places and in some cases I am really thankful for that since some of them turned out to be great liers =) If u don´t go you might regret it - so if he wants to - go for it... Just be safe!

I met my wonderful husband to be online. I think that anything is possible if you go into it with good intentions. if you go into it thinking and feeling good. knowing that you are grateful and happy for what you have. you never know, he could be the one. be grateful, but always be aware and listen to that little voice in your head

Oh I think that this maybe good but only to be friends seeing the age difference as it is a lot of years between the two of you but I think that maybe you could end up with something nice to chat about. But I do believe that he could find other woman with their own jobs. Good luck

That is entirely up to you, to be involved. BUt if he is that younger than you, i would seriously doubt it. As your tastes are most likely VERY VERY Different. I would seriously reconsider. Unless you are really deeply in love with this person or would wish to see them and be with them. BUt first i would consider meeting him face to face and actually get together just to know more about him.

Seventeen years younger wow! I do hope he's mature with his age gap with yours. Anyway meeting up for the first time would not be bad at all. Just be cautious enough becuase in the world of net it's really hard to find someone you can really trust. There are plenty of pretentious people on the net. But then I could be wrong that is why you have to meet him so that you could know.

Um...well, what did he say? Does he want to meet you? Do you feel like you might be in love with him? Is he interested in you? Its hard to say whether you should get involved with that little information.

You need to go with your heart, but remember most men will say anything just for the opportunity to meet women, I remember this well from my dating days. Since he is the one wanting to meet I would have him come to you, if he wants to meet you badly enough he can handle this, besides why go out of your way when it is him that is wanting to meet you. Secondly, get a picture before meeting, don't just take his description on what he looks like, personal description can be deceiving. Besure when you are getting ready to meet him you tell a friend where you are going and take a cell phone with you, you might need it if you have a bad experience meeting him. Good luck

first of all, i want to say to you that i don't think that age is that important. for instance, my dad is 18 years older than mom and till now that wasn't a problem at all. and you got nothing to lose if you meet him, so why not?:) good luck and take care

might be a good thing, but seventeen years, you could be his mother. my in laws on my wifes side are like that. my wifes mother is 62, and her husband is our age mid 40s, i always laugh about it, what will happen when she becomes, well you know what happens to all of us. i think unless you are only in it for fun, that you should not get involved. if it is just for fun, well go have fun a young guy like that probably do you good, lol. mahalo, oahu lopaka

My girlfriend is 17 years younger than I am and most of our relationship takes place online and on the phone. I can't see anything wrong with that. I think maybe it's time to admit that with cell phones and the Internet, virtual relationship are just as valid as physical ones. One of my best friends is a person I've never met in person. My girlfriend and I are doing the long distance relationship thing online and on the phone while she's in college. As a freelance writer, I've worked for a couple of editors for years and become quite good friends even though all our communication has been via e-mail, snail mail and phone. So, really, I'd say there's nothing wrong with meeting this guy as long as you take the necessary safe and sane precautions. Good luck. It could work out for you.

There is nothing wrong with meeting as long as you are sensible about it and know what both parties expect of the meeting. As for age difference there are many couples with large age differences, age really is just a number. Look into your heart and ask yourself what you expect of a meeting, what you want to get out of it and if it is what you really want.

I am so paranoid I would be really cautious about doing something like this. I guess I would have a hard time trusting someone I had met online. If you are going to go through with it, I would make it a very public meeting, and keep it public even if it seems fine.