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When my kids or grandsons used to pull that stunt, I'dsimply send them to their beds. He hast learn that YOU are theboss, and no matter what hedoes, you won't give in. It sounds to me like he isn't getting enough sleep. is he still taking a nap in the afternoon?

I feel ya on this one. I have a son who is now almost four it can be very frustrating I know, but i also believe that part of the reason they act that way is because they're frustrated to their turning into these little people with their own thought and feeling that they don't quite know what to do with them or understand themselves. I think your doing the right thing though just keep being persistent I think the trick is just to be more persistant then they are. Oh and please don't put the curse I hope your kids are as bad as you were I'm pretty sure if my parents hadn't cursed me.... lol!

You know that I feel for you right? And I would like to tell you it gets better, but mine has been going on for 2 years now and I'm about half crazy from trying to figure out what will work. Different stuff at different times. You also have to think that a child that young also cannot properly express themselves the way they would like to. Mine is incredibly speech delayed in some areas, and I know he gets upset at trying to tell us something and not being able to do so. Which is when the attitudes start. However, there are times that he just wants what he wants... and then it is too bad, ignore his tantrums until he becomes rational again. lol. About the only thing to do when he gets like that.

I have exactly the same problem with my daughter. I'm completely at my wits end. I attended a discipline/behavior training and they did give some great ideas:*set a good example for your children: children often learn how to act by observing how their parents act.Avoid the old saying, "Do as I say not as I do"*Don't take your child's good behavior for granted. Catch them being good and praise them for it.Send the message that you notice appropriate behavior as well as the inappropriate behavior.*Provide your child with alot of physical and verbal affection.Avoid this affection immediately after misbehaving.*Discipline should be immediate and should be administered in a matter-of-fact manner. Avoid becoming upset while disciplining. After being punished children should start with a clean slate. Do not nag or remind them of their misbehavior.* Be consistent and predictable with your child. Children function best when they know what to expect. Make it very clear what are acceptable and unacceptable behaviors.Consistency is important not only from day to day but with both parents.No seperate rules between mom and dad. * How directions are given to a child can have an effect on whether or not the children will follow through them. Make eye contact, do not yell from another room, give directions in a very specific and concise manner,Don't say "Be Good" because your idea of good and theirs may be very different. * Make rules clear and specific (usually one big house rule per year of age ex. 3years=3rules)The penalty should also be stated in advance and follow through immediately after rule is broken. When using time out the same thing applies, one minute per year of age,ex. 3years=3minutes. *let your children help with as many everday tasks as possible. *Closely monitor your children.*Avoid lecturing,nagging,yelling and screaming to manage your child's behavior. These approaches are typically not effective and often make problems worse. I have been trying some of this and I have seen some changes but you have to be consistent. hopefully it will help you in some way. And trust me it is not all your fault. I felt exactly the same way, and was assured by specialists that all children at one point in time have to see just how much they can get away with. Good luck.