What should I do?
By Nireths
@Nireths (149)
United States
April 10, 2007 5:21pm CST
I'm very confused lately. And I don't know if I should leave my partner and father of my child or stay. He's been preasuring me to get a job, I know he's in stress by money problems, but he's making me feel bad, worthless all the time. He keep telling me to leave him so we can both be happy since neither of us is happy right now. He keeps kicking me out often and telling me not to go, he's so unpredictable that he's angry one moment, happy the next, it confuses me and I don't know what to do. What do you think I should do?
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5 responses
@xelissa (776)
• New Zealand
11 Apr 07
This is not a really healthy relationship and not having to communicate properly is a relationship killer. Tell him how you feel and if doesn't feel the same or wont change because of it, well you gotta do what you gotta do and thats to leave him. Or try to compromise because this will be hard on the child
@equiambao (1)
• Philippines
11 May 07
the best thing is to have a serious and calm discussion of things between you both and the situation at hand. it is not good to harbor negative feelings inside because when it gets pent up inside, you tend to sow hatred. be honest with what he's making you feel - in turn, ask him to tell you what he feels and wants and try to be rational about it, listen and understand. you should both learn how to compromise. a marriage or union is supposed to be give and take, it works BOTH ways, not just one way.
@arianasmum (223)
• New Zealand
23 May 07
Hi
I dont mean to be picky but you say he's stressed out by money problems not ours it is both your responsibility and you dont seem willing to help so yes he is stressed. As for happy and angry alot of people who suffer a mental disorder(including depression) are like this I think you should be thinking about his health as he is the only one working how are you going to survive if he isnt able to first step is to take him to a doctor second is for you to consider seriously about getting a job. I'm a mum and I work full time and my partner looks after the child he can't work full time but does part time/casual work. Something for you to think about any way good luck.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
10 Apr 07
is there a reason why you don't want to get a job? even something part time to relieve some of the stress off him to support the family? if he's making you feel that bad and kicking you out i think you should probably just leave. it kind of seems like he doesn't want you there so he kicks you out but then the thought of being alone scares him so he tells you he wants you to stay. the cycle will probably continue till he meets another woman that he can move onto so that he doesn't have to be alone.
@ironstruck (2298)
• Canada
10 Apr 07
It sounds like talking to a marriage counselor would be a good plan and if he will not do that, I could only see things getting worse.
Ultimately, we all have to do what is best for ourselves.
If you are not happy with your life, then make some changes.
Remember that it is your life and you only get one chance at it.
@amylou8521 (324)
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11 Apr 07
I dont really think im in a position to judge someone elses relationship, but my opinion, from the sounds of what you wrote, you need to tell him to sort it out pretty quick!
Surely you arent happy how things are? It sounds like its not just a case of him wanting you to get a job, this happens every day, but couples discuss it, not partners throwing there girlfriend/wifes out onto the street!
Do you want to feel worthless all the time, no women needs or wants this and it isnt good for you!
Dont let him wear the trousers, stand up for yourself and he might realise what hes got, and could potentially lose!
These really are my opinions though and at the end of the day what you will do, you will do on you're own accord, no amount of messages or posts will change this
Good luck :)