Minister's wife tries to drown her 2 daughters in tub

@raydene (9871)
United States
April 10, 2007 5:52pm CST
Mother admits trying to drown her two children Is postpartum depression the fault or the excuse for this and others like it. http://www.cnn.com/video/player/player.html?url=/video/law/2007/04/10/jimenez.ca.mom.drowns.kids.kgtv
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• United States
11 Apr 07
The first time I heard of post partum depression, I was like...nah, there is no such thing as that. I never heard it happen in my native country. But then, when I had my first child, I was alone with her all day, my husband's family is not in the area, so there was nobody there to check on me or drop by for a visit. And then I realized, if you are the type who had prior problems in battling depression, self pity and other negative feeling...you will really lost it. It is quite hard in adjusting to a new baby...and if you have other kids, it will drive you insane. I believe that if your mind is just strong and you tell yourself you can take everything that is infront of you...then you can battle this depression. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, make yourself busy. I don't have anybody there with me, but I got so many friends that is just a call away. My friends called me up, discuss motherhood issues, etc. So, between calls, chores and the new baby, there is no time to think, woe is me. But I know it is case by case basis. I just hope that family members would be vigilant too with the new mothers and don't take any changes of behavior for granted. But I do agree too that there are are cases that killing children can't be all associated to any mental illness. There is always help in one way or another.
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• United States
13 Apr 07
Thank you for the best response.
@mummymo (23706)
11 Apr 07
I know from personal experience that depression can do funny things to your mind! I fervently believe however that I would not have harmed my children - myself maybe but never my kids! I am not a psychiatrist so I don't know if this was caused by depression or not. What saddens me most is that if this woman was so deeply depressed why was no one helping her or monitoring her? I know how hard it can be to see past the 'mask' of depression but if this woman was so low then surely her husband, family or friends should have noticed and helped. Where were the health workers who are supposed to monitor and support new mothers? This is a heartbreaking story that I can't say anymore about cos i will get even more upset! xxx
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
11 Apr 07
A lot of times that is what it gets blamed on Postnatal Depressions but I don't think it is to be blamed to that extend I mean I suffered with them to but not to the extend where I wanted to hurt my Kids. It just seems so easy to blame it on that but I do not believe it is caused by that most of the time I believe that some Women use it as an excuse because they know it can not be proven any different
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Apr 07
I think this is terrible, someone should do that to any children, murder is murder misters wife or not
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• United States
11 Apr 07
I am pretty sick of mental problems being used as a cop out for terrible crimes. BTW ministers' wives are getting pretty dangerous these days. I believe the trial of the one who shot her husband is coming up soon.
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@faythlyn (94)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Post partum depression is not an excuse - it is very real. No sane person tries to drown their own children!!! After I had my son I went through PPD and it took me 2 weeks to convince my doctor that I need some anti-depressants. Despite the fact that I had a history of depression, and I was obviously not doing well, she made me wait 2 full weeks to see if it just got any better. I dont know why, but doctors are so hesitant about helping sad mothers, and then things like this happen!!
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@SageMother (2277)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Postpartum depression is very real and can be devastating. Too many doctors let the new mothers questions go in one ear and out of the other. They don't stop and think that the hormonal changes along with the relationship, money, and new baby stresses can drive many over the edge.
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@nic24uk (571)
11 Apr 07
i had post natal depression after my second child and not once did i feel like i wanted to hurt my child or myself i just felt down. i dont know why people say that post natal depression is the cause for such barbaric crimes. i think its rubish they are just evil if they feel like killing their own flesh and blood.
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• United States
11 Apr 07
MOTHER OF GOD! What is wrong with these people? She needs to exercise a bit of the self-flagellation. What a horrible thing to do. In fact, I don't even want to think about it. On to the next topic, ma'am. :(