When do you regret being married?

@eshaan (6188)
India
April 11, 2007 7:10am CST
All the married couples have some problem creating points. I know that married life needs adjustments, but when the adjustments made are only one-sided and crossing the limits, I feel I should have led my life as single. Do you come across some situations when you feel similar to me?
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@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
11 Apr 07
i never feel like i shouldn't have gotten married, i fell in love with my hubby at 14 yrs. old and never regret anything we've ever done together. i c couples who grow out of doing things like hugging each time they see their spouse or even p.d.a.'s i never grow out of that stuff!
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@eshaan (6188)
• India
11 Apr 07
Lucky one, either you have got the exact match or you have adjusted with him perfectly.
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@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I think we just grew up together, and we're so much alike that there's not much we need to change about eachother.
@Sicantik (706)
11 Apr 07
Fortunately I have never had any regret about being married to my husband. Mind you I've only been married for 5 years so I think it is still relatively new. But I hope it will stay this way as I'm really loving it at this moment. Have a nice day...xxx
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@eshaan (6188)
• India
12 Apr 07
Sorry for attending you late, 5 years is still a good time and you are happy that means chances are you have found a good match. Enjoy life!
@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 07
I have just married for less than a year, but I have been staying with my husband for around 5 years. I do agree that both people have to give-and-take in order to maintain the relationship. Communication plays a very important role in the relationship. When arguments happened, I was thinking perhaps it's good if I just stay single, without having to compromise with another person. But in the recent years, I didn't think of that anymore. It's because I know we do love each other, and arguments happen is because we want each other to be good. It's only that sometimes, we have disagreements on certain things, this is where we really need to communicate. I believe that if there is LOVE between these two people, and both are willing to give to the relationship, they can make it. Have you talked to your husband before? The more you communicate, the more you understand each other. Wish you good luck! ^_^
@eshaan (6188)
• India
11 Apr 07
It's not the case that I don't love my husband or we don't have happy times,but we are from very different backgrounds and so have to adjust a lot.
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@sebatt84 (131)
• France
13 Apr 07
Yes a lot regrets after wedding.. I have also feeld the same situation as you
@eshaan (6188)
• India
13 Apr 07
No matter how the life goes, but it should go on. Most of the members here I think have adjusted a lot, lets learn something from them.
@delenep (212)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I don't regret being married. I love my husband unconditionally. I do however sometimes wish that the situations we face could be different if certain other things in the past had been done differently. But that would never make me regret my marriage. My love and commitment there is unconditional and 100%.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
11 Apr 07
If you ask me seriously, summing up all the things, my sweet children included I also don't regret, but for some moments thoughts come to our minds that so much we have to do just for being called married.
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@abetskii (12)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
Yes, there are times I regret being married. These are times when I am reminiscing about my bachelor days. When I could go to the racetracks and do horse betting, wasting away my time alone, making decisions for myself for all I care. Still, I don't regret it at all because my marriage is a happy union.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
13 Apr 07
Happy married life and enjoy it fully. Thanks for your response.
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
11 Apr 07
sometimes but then i look back at all the good things i have in my marrige
@eshaan (6188)
• India
12 Apr 07
All of you are so positive, I will have to learn from you all.
@my2luvs (158)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I have never regretted getting married. Me and my husband dated for 4 years before we got married. I think this gave us the time to get to know each other and make sure it was the right decision. We do not believe in divorce so we had to make sure this was a permanent thing.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
13 Apr 07
Thanks for your response. I think no one marries ever with the thought of divorce, but the problems come uninvited. Problems of married life are totally different, its good you took your time to make decision, but sometimes dating is full of enjoyment and reality is full of disasters.
• United States
11 Apr 07
I am not sure that I regret being married....but sometimes I wonder if I made the right decision. We did not know eachother very long before we married.(Now) my advice is always to date for 2 years before getting married. My husband became a different man after we married...the man he always was (I learned from freinds). The relationship I thought I was going to have is not what I got. Someimes I feel like a sinlge woman living with a male roomate....sad. Marriage is work and both partners have to be involved, as you said it does not work when it is one-sided. I'm in my 50's and have decided that it's better to live with him than alone, although I think I'd be just fine alone.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
11 Apr 07
This is the condition with many married couples and I think that children are the bonding between such couples. They are the only reason why most of the couples carry on their lives together.
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