Is this over reacting or homophobic in anyway?
By socorban
@socorban (650)
United States
April 11, 2007 7:54pm CST
I always thought guys would feel generally the same way i do about this but after the subject came up a few time i was surprised at the responses and lack of guys who agree with me.
I have a sport bike, a crotch rocket and for one to be a passanger im basicaly the only thing to hold on to, as you can see in the photo, no sissy bar for a passanger, im the anchor. So the passanger has to hold on tight and esentialy be right up against me to stay on the bike.
I have on 3 ocasions had 3 differant guys ask me to take them for a ride. I abruptly would say no way in heck is a guy ridin passanger.
A few friends joked and called me homophobic, and some people i talked to on the net said it wasnt that big a deal, but to me, the idea of a guys genitals pressed firmly against my back lacks a great deal of apeal for me, and frankly just feels wrong in so many ways.
Does anyone else agree this would be extremely akward or am i just "phobic"Any guys have a bike who actually take guys for rides out there?
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8 responses
@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
12 Apr 07
Well, I'm not a guy but I guess I could still give my two cents here.
Personally, I don't think it's overreacting, or a phobia, I guess you're just not comfortable with the idea, and perhaps you think a little too much, you know, the whole genitals pressing against your back thing. I guess, once that's in the head, it really can't get out.
Plus it's your bike. No one has the right to judge you if you're not comfortable in taking others for a ride, for whatever reason.
It would like funny, two guys, riding together so close on a bike, and I have made fun of that when I've seen it in real life, and in GTA.
But maybe you could give it a try once, maybe the genitals won't press that much, and maybe a little bit of distance in that area, at least, can be maintained, just a ride around the block, nothing much.
At least, you got a girl here, who thinks you're not homophobic.
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@socorban (650)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Thats good. Ive had a girl on before and the lack of a sissy bar mean im the only thing to keep the passanger on the bike. Its next to imposssible not to be pressed against the rider cuase i have to lean forward to stear so it makes things complicated. I surley dont mind a chick up against me but im not a male contact kind of guy.
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@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
15 Apr 07
ha ha, 'sissy bar' that's all I heard and then everything else just blurred, that's a good name for it,
what's that handle in the back actually called? I know i know it, but I can't think of it now.
okay, so after reading your comment, I would it's normal and of course, you'd like it if it was a chick back there, ha ha.
But still I wouldn't use the word 'homophobia' just cause you don't want a dude pressing up against you.
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@socorban (650)
• United States
15 Apr 07
Im not sure what they actually are called. I know when i went to the suzuki dealership to price one i reffered to it as a sissy bar and the guy knew exactly what i was talkin about.
I guess we can assume the new name is a sissy bar aside from what ever the factory calls it.
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@freak369 (5113)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Sweet, I have a GSX too but since I am a chick, nost guys don't trust me to let them ride with me. I've been riding for years now and know what I am doing so I just laugh, grab my helmet and leave. I do know a few guys that won't take guys as passengers; they never really said that they were homophobic or anything like that, they say that it's harder to have a 200 pound guy with them than a 150 pound chick.
Hey, it's your bike, ride how you like. If someone calls you out about it or questions you about it .. ask them if they are the ones that made the bike payments, pay the insurance and pay for the gaas. That usually shuts them up real quick :]
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@socorban (650)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I agree. I did alot of custom work on my bike, and im not about to have it ruined by a passanger. Thats awsome you have a bike, and not just any bike but a critch rocket. Chicks with sport bikes are so friggin hot. I went to a few bike shows near my home town and i have to tell you, when a group of chicks ride in on sport bikes everybody stops and has a look.
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@urbandekay (18278)
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15 Apr 07
Yep, your over-reacting, lighten up, unless the guys who ask you are a bit dodgy
all the best urban
@paradisesuns (1754)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Well I'm not a guy,but if my husband had one of those a went riding around anywhere I would be embarrassed and I'm sure alot of eyebrows would be lifted at the sight...mine included.I'm not ashamed to say he's straight...proud of it.And if I was a guy I would feel the same way as you describe.Heck I'm female and if I had one I wouldn't want another female clinging to my back...(just voicing my freedom of speech here...lol)
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@Kaeli72 (1229)
• United States
12 Apr 07
As humans, our greatest way of communication is through touch. As a married woman, I don't allow anyone to hug on me (except my family) because I don't like the idea of another body, male or female, pressing against me. I don't want my hand to accidentally brush up against the wrong things and them getting the wrong idea about me.
My hubby would tell you that you have every right to disallow males to ride with you. He feels the same way.
In today's society, the gay community is getting more and more recognition and more are "coming out of the closet". But, that's another discussion altogether.
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@socorban (650)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Ah yes on the nose. Thats how i am. I like my personal space, i dont like people even standing to close and such. I dunno maybe im wierd but if i can reach my arm out and touch you your an incursion in my personal zone. Unless your a pretty girl since im single, or family.
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@magicalmerlin (1623)
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12 Apr 07
Sounds like a good idea to me but then I am female and have only ever been on the back of a bike. I can imagine the weight would make a difference to handling. If you are not comfortable then it could affect your (do you call it driving or steering or handling again) and be dangerous. A good situation for me to daydream about when doing chores.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I would have to say that you are over-reacting. Most guys would love to have a bike..but don't for one reason or another. they really just want to guy, and are not interested in anything else.
You really ought to relax and enjoy things as they come along and for what they are, not for what they think you are.
