Have You Ever Been Jealous Of A Friend?
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
April 11, 2007 8:59pm CST
I have a friend and for some reason I find myself being jealous of her a lot, which makes me feel uncomfortable. There is nothing really spectacular about her, yet people fawn all over her a lot.
People tell me that she is prettier than me and that they like her better than me. She is not a bad person. It is just that people treat her like she's royalty. Like I may say something playfully about her and her friends will defend her, while she gets this smirk on her face.
She is hardly the type of person that needs defending, she is an ex-convict and can beat my butt any day. When she is doing wrong, her friends take up for her and lie for her. It makes me sick, because again, I don't see why people are so taken with her.
Like I'll say something, and they will say, oh she would never do that. I say, how do you know what she will and will not do. You haven't even known her that long. It just annoys me, because these are all things that I have seen her do.
For instance, when I first met her she was smoking crack. She never left her house by herself, unless she was going to buy it. So I would ask her wear she was going and she would say, not wear you think I am going and we would fight, because I made it clear to her that I did not want a friend on drugs.
She would eventually leave anyway and her friends that were still there would swear that she was not going to buy crack. They never smoked it with her, but they had no problems protecting her from something that could have killed her. Eventually, she stopped smoking crack.
Then there was the beer and as for as I know she has finally stopped that too. I don't give her a hard time about the cigarettes because they don't cause her to be out of her mind and besides, I have my own bad habits. I just wish people didn't act like she was some kind of goddess.
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@xlilkttiebanix (156)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Jealous of a friend? I know I'm guilty of that, for sure. See, I've always been overweight, and have always gotten jealous of my skinny friends. It would create many issues for me, and helped to make me a bitter person when it comes to the stereotypes that we're faced with every day. It took me many years to realize that if someone isn't going to love me for me, and who I am, then they aren't worth my time in a relationship. Being jealous of your friend because other's cover for her is really tough, but the only advice I can give is this: Remember that you're not covering for her, and that you know the truth of things, and your life could be much better without her in it to bring you down. Surround yourself with people that like you and you like in return, and that you can have fun with, and not really have these sorts of feelings with.
@SirMattias (106)
• United States
12 Apr 07
There's usually at least one friend who i find myself admiring to the point of jealousy... Back in high school i think it may have been about his luck with women, and later on it was over money. Now a days i find myself really only effected by a friend who's got their academics in better line then i do, which sadly is alot of people these days. But I'm not sure it's jealousy so much anymore, i like to surround myself in people who have some trait i want to improve upon for myself, as though perhaps i can learn from them through osmosis.
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I bet it is hard to have a friend like her. I use to have a fried like her, but I finally realized the jealously was killing me. I realized the friendship was toxic to my self esteem. When I finally steped back and took a good look at the relationship I was jealous of someone I did not even respect. I did not know why everyone was treating my friend like she was a princess, but she is their problem now. I am glad I got rid of the anger and have new friends.
My friends I have now do notalways agree with me but they do not feel they need to defend me, they will tell me if they think I am in the wrong. I do the same thing, we have a honest realtionship and can sit and talk like adults.
Now to tell you I get jealous of my older sister. She is 18 months older than I. She is now taking care of our grandmother. She goes over to our grandmothers home almost everyday. I had our mom living with my family for 10 years. I pushed mom in a wheel chair and cooked and cleaned and did all of mom's bidding for 10 years. My sister has had my grandmother only for two years. My twin sister and mom and the rest of my family feel so sorry for my older sister. Well it really pisses me off. My older sister has been independent and could travel all over the world until the last two years, she now has some responsibility. Family and even her friends say "Poor poor (my sister's name) even mom. Mom is in a nursing home and calls me everyday to go and buy her stuff or to grip at me for something. Mom was an abusive person when we grew up and continues to be somewhat abusive or just nasty. I also dislike and even hate mom most days. I do what she wants out of my sence of obligation to her.
@p0wcheee (97)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
Maybe because they're defending her, it's because they do it. It's like a self preservation/self assurance thing. It's that or people are so oblivious about the truth because they're being blinded something so physical.
Anyway,she's not good for you so that keep hanging around.
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