If you husband or wife had an affair what would you do?

I will make a similar affair with another and would prefer from a mylot friend, if not available then will serarch for.

If my wife have an affair with someone, I will allow him to go with him and leave me alone. In husband wife relationship, there should be honesty, transparency, respect to each other, intense love etc. If wife/husband is looking for someone else that means she/he is not satisfied with present relation. It is better to quit free and let him/her enjoy the new life with next. I believe in 100% fairness in relationship. Thanks for starting good topic, this is true. Many of us are doing this.

I believe those things which belong to you will be yours, those things that do not belong to you are not yours. If such kind of thing happened, just let it be.people can not prevent water from flowing from higher place to lower place. take what God gives you. this is life.I wonder if there are some people here agreeing with what I said.

I don't if I would forgive that. It's really difficult because it envolves trust and when a relationship is not based on trust, really big jelous and so on come along and it's really bad. I trust my bf and I expect him to respect me, if he doesn't want me any more is better to leave me than to cheat. If he was cheating and I did forgive him I would always be thinking about that and that he could do it again. Because once you forgive, the one who cheats feels more comfortable to do it again.

I would talk to him. Discuss what went wrong in our relationship that prompted him to enter into an affair. If he is willing to give our relationship another chance then i would too. If he slips and did it again then there is no point in continuing our relationship cause he is not really committed, he does not love me enough by giving me the respect i deserve. No matter how it hurts i will end our marriage cause there is no point in continuing a farce relationship. I have too much selfworth and dignity to be made a laughingstock. I would rather be alone than be unhappy together.

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I'm sure,more or less,every one has stressed over this question:Can men and women just be friends?Well,the question is complicated. Surveysshow that many romantic relationships start off as friendships. But this may be because one person is attracted to other and chooses a let's-be-mates rather than a direct approach. A poll by women's website handbag.com found overwhelming support for idea of men and women being platonic friends.but nearly half the women said some male friends were ex-lovers and one third of women secretly lusted after their male friends but didn't act on it. men are also likely to be attracted to their women friends - a survey by MarketTiers of 1,000 people in the united states found that one third of men fancy one close female friend.

Aslong as he comes home to me I am fine with it, but he must relize he will have to be check for diseases for I do not want to get new illnesses.

That is easy kick them out no matter what, casue at that point trust is broken and could not stay with someone who betrayed me