Who would you choose if you were him??

I think your friend needs to talk to his mother about how much his girlfriend means to him and how much his family means to him too. He needs to let his mom know that he's serious about his girlfriend but also give her a chance to tell him her fears or reasons why she doesn't accept his girlfriend. You didn't mention their ages, but I'm assuming they're old enough to make good decisions about their future. I'm not sure who I would choose in this situation (if I were him) but if his mom is being completely irrational and cannot come up with a good reason for hating the girlfriend, I would consider moving out. I would still send cards and call her every now and then to make sure she knows that she's still an important part of my life - and hope that she changes her mind about the girlfriend.

Why is his family didn't like the girl? I prefer to choose my family. I've been in that situation, and i choose my family, but i still have a good relationship with my ex, and now my family like my ex. Be patient and pray.God will give the answer.

That is a hard decision to make, without living it, or being in it. For the parents you need to understand why are they not accepting the girlfriend to they have a legitimate reason, and if so they should share that reason with their son. On the other hand, parents should not dictate the lives of their children, while you can guide, and help, and educate your children in your own values and ideals, at some point you have to accept that your child is now an adult, and can live their own lives for themselves. The other thing is, who is he going to spend his life with? Does he love this girl for forever after, if so then he needs to think about how he would feell without the girl in his life. He also needs to think about this, will he come to resent the girl or blame her for the rift between him and his parents and if so will it create a rift between him and his girl? Does the girl deserve this condemnation from his parents? What right would his parents have to dictate to him how he should live his life or who he should spend his life with? You mentioned they both the girlfriend and son tried to make things peaceful, so it sounds like the parents are being unreasonable, if my mom was being unreasonable, well I would have to tell her off. But then I have been blessed with the ideas I am sharing came from my mother. She didn't expect to live my life for me, and would not have given me such an demand, she is someone I could have talked with. My sister was involved with someone whom both my mother and I didn't approve of, or like, or trust, but we did our best to make and keep peace with that person, only to in the end be proven right about them, which is a good thing. When the time came I asked my mother and maybe this man needs to ask his parents. Do you love your child more than you hate, this other person, or the choices they make, or what they are doing? Or do you hate the thing, or other person more than you love your child? Once that question is answered if the parents are real parents and truly love their son, then they will find some balance in the situation rather make such demands.

i choose my family and girl friend i m compermise to my mummy