Do U Believe in LOVE @ First Sight?
By arkentos
@arkentos (213)
India
April 12, 2007 5:36am CST
Many of us have made experienced this feeling.Me too.So what do you say?DO you really think that love happens with the first sight or rather a crush stuff?I till now believe that the feeling of love @ first sight can't be explained,what do you say?some say when you know someone for a long time then only you love that person...Are they right?But I say they are wrong.any comments...
7 responses
@imj0ker (72)
• India
12 Apr 07
I dont really think love at first sight wud succeed and if at all it does, it's a mere coincidence that two ppl who shared common priorities looked at each other. Love is a mature concept and it strikes deep only wen it's deeply rooted. And for dat to happen, both must have developed an understanding and a great deal of tolerance for each other coz every one has flaws. And for dat, both need time.
First sight love is a mere infatuation and it usually fades gradually as u grow closer to d person. On the other hand, true love builds up gradually as u grow closer to the person.
No offense to first sight lovers.. U rock buddies !!
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@Lifeless (2635)
• India
10 Dec 07
Yeah, i completely believe in that saying.. I have been in love at first sight a couple of times in the past during my school days, but those were just mere crushes, nothing more.. But now, I am in a serious relationship with my girl, and in this case also, it was love at first sight...
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
14 Apr 07
Dear, it is not love, it is physical attraction. We cannot love, what we do not know. Love comes when we know a person over some time.
@coolcat123 (4387)
• India
12 Apr 07
Yes,I believe in love at first site because I believe that love is a thing which can happen anywhere and anytime.We do not force it to happen but it happens automatically whithout our will.
It usually happens between two good friends because as most of the people say that a girl and a boy can never stay good friends because love always comes in between them.
@sweetangie26 (263)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
nope.definitely not..love doesn't happen in an instant..physical attraction yes, but not true love..get to know the person first, then if you found out that you still love the person amidst his/her flaws and shortcomings then that must be love.
@loveJulia (84)
• China
12 Apr 07
that depends.if you love someone at the first sight,and you tell him or her.maybe you two will get along very well.on the contrary,you will forget it soon in the future.
@lonely_f16 (2146)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
Apparently many do believe in such thing but for me love at first sight is just what we call it but it's not really love it's just attraction and it's like you want to know more about that person but it doesn't mean you really care for that person..here's an article i was able to see in yahoo which is of good information too
Last year a Fox News/Opinion Dynamics poll asked almost 1,000 adults "Do you believe in love at first sight?" , 49 percent of the women and 48 percent of the men responded yes.
That's no surprise. The giddy flush of excitement we feel when we're attracted to someone is genuine, brought on by the brain chemical phenylethylamine, or PEA, a natural amphetamine. "There's a physiological rush, a biochemical electricity that happens when people meet someone they want to partner with," says Judith Coche, Ph.D., director of the Couples School at the Coche Center in Philadelphia and an associate clinical professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine. "Those feelings are not a myth," she says. "But they're only one of several factors to consider when deciding whether someone is the one for you." She adds, "many people trust their gut when they choose a life partner but biochemistry and logic have to work on the same track. Someone might look right, sound right and seem to have the right qualities, but if you choose too quickly, or if your partner isn't someone who can build coupling skills, it's not going to take you into a conscious relationship."
Betsy, a 34-year-old lawyer from Boston, admits that following her gut reaction hasn't panned out. "I tend to like men who are interesting, sexy, and make me feel safe," she says. "and I've got to have a gut-level excitement about someone. Without that feeling, I can't really imagine wanting to stay in a relationship." But she reveals that in the past she's been so happy about finding these qualities that she's overlooked important differences, such as lack of commitment readiness.
Although you can just know immediately if someone is sexually appealing, smart and interesting, it takes time to discover whether that person is kind, dependable, emotionally available and compatible with you in terms of values, interests and temperament. "Unless you want to change partners often in a lifetime, err on the side of caution," says Coche. "I'm more concerned when people rush ahead than when they go too slowly. It takes time to cook a good relationship."
credits to: love-track.com