do you have any fair weather friends?

I have a fair weather sister. She only calls me and my little sister when her loser boyfriend is out with his friends. She usually doesn't get invited, but she provides the money. Her boyfriend doesn't have a job and hasn't had one most of the time they've been together. He lives with her rent free, and she even gives him extra money. But she wouldn't even give my little sister gas money when she wanted her to come up and hang out with her. It's really pretty annoying, especially when you consider the fact that my little sister is in college and works for my brother, who hadn't been able to pay for her for over a month because of some stuff. But my selfish older sister couldn't give her $5 to come see her? Instead she whined and complained and said my little sister didn't love her. My little sister said she could come see her, but she wouldn't because she knew her boyfriend would be home before her then. I rarely talk to this sister. Like I said, she only calls if her boyfriend isn't home. Or to complain because she never gets pictures of my son anymore. I don't mind sending out pictures of my son. But I don't understand why she thinks I should keep giving her all these free pictures and sending them to her and everything, when she can't even send him a birthday card or a Christmas card? She just likes to show off pictures and talk about how cute her nephew is, even though she doesn't know anything about him. Last time we were home (we live 1000 miles from home) she went out with my little sister, my baby, and me. We had been shopping for less than an hour when her boyfriend (who lives with her) called and said their friend wanted to take them out to eat (she had seen them three days earlier, and sees them at least once a week every week). She threw a fit because we wouldn't take her home right away! Her boyfriend came and picked her up, and hates me now because I wouldn't take her home. So what, if she had only seen her 11 month old nephew less than a dozen times in his entire life? Her friends that she sees more times than that a month are more important. Even when she knows we are coming, she always has other things to do instead of go to the family functions at my parents' house. Instead she expects us to drive the 30 miles to her house, just to see her for the few minutes of free time she has between doing things with her friends. Sorry for the rant. Can you tell I'm mad at my sister? LOL

Well kaperkitty at least she still talks even if it is just on her terms. Yes I sure do know what you're talking about. I made friends with a co-worker and we became very good friends. We talked a lot and she trusted me 100% telling me her darkest secrets and we made a point of meeting once a week for lunch. We were both married but her husband was not well and she had a hard time of things. When her hubby passed away I attended the funneral and we continued being friends but only until she took up with a fellow. She sold everything and moved in with him and never bothered with me again. I don't even know his name, just what he does for a living. She uses her cell phone exclusively and when I went into town one time I called her to see if we could do a coffee and I got an automated voice mail that informed me she would not accept phone calls from a cell phone. I have never heard from her again. Took me awhile to accept this. Just hope she's OK.

What a strange question, lol. :P I thought all friends are fair weather friends, with the exception of a few. If you can get a few bosom friends, you are in great luck.

She is taking you for granted, and there is nothing more painful than having those closest abandone you at the most troublesome times. Forward you message or e-mail to her explaining you need time alone to re-evaluate your real friends. And mean it!!! Don't wuss out- good luck, and know that everyone appreciates people like you!!!!

I can so relate, i have a couple of those. As you know sarah and i have been freinds for years, about 13 to be exact. There are times that i feel like her other freinds are more important because they dont have the responsibilities that i do, and like the 2 of you i can easily tell her how i feel and things seem, to brighten up for a little while. i know when it comes down to it i can count on her but i feel that since i had kids our freindship is not the samei see her when everyone else is not around...is that a freind?