Mother's Day -- With or Without the Kids?

We moms spend enough time with kids, so a holiday for us should be a day without them! It should be a day for us to do what we want for a change, instead of what the kids want or need. By all means, go out and pamper yourself - you deserve it. I think people tend to think that all moms need to be glued to their families 24/7. They forget that we are people, too, and we have names other than "Mommy". I can't tell you how long it's been since I heard my -name- spoken in this house. I'm either "Mommy" or "Hon". Let us know what color polish you pick. ;)

It's not wrong, but wouldn't be my first choice. If I had that choice I would love to be able to spend the day with my mom and my daughters. I live 1600 miles from my mom and my youngest daughter, and my oldest daughter is 400 miles away. So I would choose to spend the day with them. Even though I call my mom and my daughters call me on Mother's Day, it's not exactly the same.

It really varies depending on what age group you are talking about. My mother (82) has always expected to spend Mother's Day with her children. The whole family, children, grandchildren, inlaws, would all go to my mother's. Now with grandchildren older, it has been a tradition for the last, oh, decade that my sisters and my mother and I would get together for brunch somewhere... just us moms. Last year, the first year without my Dad, we had lunch at my mother's and my brother joined us. We ordered in. Which means, I do not spend Mother's Day with my children. I tell them, however, that I do not want gifts. I want stuff done around the house. On the other hand, what do fathers do on Father's Day? How many of them go off golfing with their buddies and DO NOT spend the day with their children. Can you say "double standard"?

My mothers day is usually spent with my hubby and son and then I get to do something for myself later in the week (on my own too if the hubby is home early enough for me to go out and about). It really depends on you and your family, and I wouldn't think it was wrong to want to spend Mothers Day on your own, pampering yourself - the day is dedicated to mothers so you should be able to choose what you want to do on that day :) Since you have the morning with them, i think taking the time out for yourself in the afternoon is a great idea :) Hmm I think I'm going to suggest the same this year LOL

I think you are creating the best of both world's for Mother's Day by spending it with your family in the morning and going out in the afternoon for a little pampering. If your family asks you what you want, then say exactly what you said here and let them know that although you love them very much, a little alone time would really make you very happy and when mommy is happy, everyone benefits and have a great Mother's Day!

I don't think there is a thing wrong with spending one day a year doing what you want to do. Pamper yourself. Live a little! I'm a work at home mom with four children, and Honey, I'm going out on Mother's Day. I spend the morning with my kids and my husband like you said, and then instead of a gift, my hubby gives me cash. I go out for lunch and go shopping with a friend. We've made this a tradition. Of course, I'd end up spending the money on the kids and coming home with stuff for them, but last time my husband told me I had better come home with something good just for me... so I did. ;o)

No, it is not wrong, it is your day to do as you please. The only thing I ever want on Mother's Day is breakfast in bed. This year Mother's Day falls on my youngest son's birthday so I will share in the celebrations of both. Go out and enjoy your day to the fullest, you deserve it -»(¯`v´¯)-»

Since its called Mothers day I think you should get to do whatever you want. I am hoping to get a couple hours away from the kids to get a pedicure and then have a great dinner out and some quality family time with my family.

i m male and unmarried but i want to suggest u bcas i m also a son of a mother.mothers day is for the mothers and this day it is children duty that they celebrate it and give some gift to their mothers.i agree with ur emotions it is not necessary that on mothers day u need to pass whole day with ur family but u should spend smtime with ur family after that u can go out with ur friend and enjoy in ur way.

I thnk you should spend it w/ ur family,y0u know youll always be together everyday but its a special day for you all to celebrate so maybe you should be together,sharing your precious moments..

I like spending Mother's Day with my son and my husband. I know what you are talking about, you feel that you never get a break and that Mother's Day is a holiday for us mom's. If you are with your children you don't get a break. Since it is called Mother's Day it is a holiday for women with children, If it wasn't for our children it wouldn't be our day. My husband and son spoil me all day. That is my favorite holiday. Maybe you could spend Mother's Day with your children and then the next Sunday, have a special day for you and have your husband watch the kids and go out with your friends. Just an idea.

I spend my mothers day with my husband and our children, they cook breakfast and we all eat together, after all we wouldnt be mothers without our children. After the mornings gone, I go do what I want, and usually thats hanging out with a couple of other mothers I know. For you wanting to spend a bit of time on your own for mothers day, go for it, its your choice and look aleast you get to spend the morning with your family. I dont think its wrong at all... Mothers day for us is my family showing apreciation of what I do as a mother for them...

I think it's a great idea! My kids' dad always spent father's day on the golf course and said it was "his day" I usually spend mother's day with the kids, but just the idea of going and getting pampered for the day with "my name on it" sounds like something I could deal with!!

for the first time I am feeling why am I not a mother so being a mother is the nicest experience for a mother.yet i am not married and so no children yet.but will hope that next yr may be i would be able to celebrate mother's day with children.

well my morning will also be spent with my husband and kids, but then the kids will go to my sisters and the rest of the day will be blisfull with just me and my husband blessed be

So far, I have only been though one Mother's day as a mom. I wanted to spend it with my family. I think mother's day is a day to be thankful for what you have (either being a mom/ or having a mom). I am so glad I spent the time with my family on that day. Though it would also be nice to get a spa certificate or something. :)

Well I spend Mothers day the same way every year me, my husband, our 2 kids, my mother and my two sisters all go to the zoo and spend the day they do 1/2 price admission on Mothers day and it is one of the only times that we can all get out and do something together afterwards we usually all go out to dinner I wouldn't want to spend it any other way

I think thats perfect. I'd love to spend the day and afternoon with my kids and hubby and do something without the kids in the evening as a little treat! I dont think it's wrong at all!

I think mothers day should really be spent to yourself I mean have alot of fun it is your day and as long as the family is included before 12midnight then have fun it's your day.

Hi there, no I do not feel it is wrong if you want to spend a little time on Mother's Day away from your family. It would be nice if they could "treat" you to the things you are longing for. I hope they can. My two sons live in another state and I am rarely with them on Mother's Day. This year I will be united with all three of my children on Mother's Day and I am really looking forward to that. It has been over 6 years since we have all shared this wonderful day together...so I think it is important to remember how many families are NOT able to be together even when they want to be.