am i going to let my mom who abandoned us see us again?
@confusedheart (207)
Philippines
April 12, 2007 1:39pm CST
My mom and dad got seperated more or less for years ago. Even before that, my relationship with my mom was a disaster. I remember all the beatings that I suffered from her hands and how my degrading her treatment was to me and my dad. My sister and I was left to my father's side after the seperation. My mom promised though that she will come back but I guess she didn't. I waited for even a simple call from her on my birthdays or my graduation day or even on Christmasses but I got none. I grew up angry and confused because of the way she suddenly disappeared in my life. Now all of a sudden she's here requesting for a chance to see us one more time. should I let her? what do you think?
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@easymoney75503 (1702)
• United States
12 Apr 07
this is nothing that anyone can answer for you and i bet you know that as well. i know how you are feeling though i have been there. i can tell you what i did and why but i cant say what you should do or what i think of the spot you are in due to this is something that will affect you forever all the way in your heart. my mom and dad split up when i was 6 months old and i got to see my dad a few times growing up and i loved him alot he was good to me until he married againt hen it was yelling, hitting etc. my mom was very abusive and nuts to say it mildly. when i was 8 years old my dad decided her wanted me and took it to court well my mom fought it and i didnt want either of them. they were both bad. when i spoke with the judge i told him everything. i ended up with my grandpa thank god. well my mom split and didnt want to see me she had lost the child support. my dad was mad and i never saw him either. no one helped my grandpa with anything for me. when i was 13 he passed away and i got stuck with my mom. when i was 14 i left home. my dad never looked for me. then when iwas 18 i had a baby and all of a sudden all these people that didnt want me and i hated for it wanted me. i wanted a real family with grandparents so i gave in. i tried really tried but in the end i had to tell them both to go away. it was better for my kdis that way. i will never thinkt hough i did the wrong thing i was glad to know what the reasons were that they did what they did. i was glad to know it wasnt me. that they missed me. i was glad i got to know them even if there ugly habbits came back. it helped me understand me though. it helped me come to terms of my childhood. it made me a better person. the relationships didnt last but it gave me answers even though i didnt ask some of the questions. i never let my guard completely down but i gave them both the chance. i left it up to them to keep it going but they didnt they started saying things to my kids and acting like they did when i was young so they made the coice to lose me for good. i miss them both and wish things could be different but at least i had the little timet hat i did. i hope something i said helped you. just dont listen to anyone on what you should do. look in your heart and see what is best for you. o one can fault you for that.
