Long Distance Relationship how it works???Give me Advice plz....!!
By nujrem20
@nujrem20 (63)
United States
April 12, 2007 6:57pm CST
I have a girlfriend for almost 10 months she'sfar from me the only communication that we have is only by texting but I went to thier house once a month!!Sometimes she said she's tired of our relationship because the miss me alot..and she wants to break up!but she cant cause she loves me!
Can you give me an advice??Plz....What would I do???
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13 responses
@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
13 Apr 07
Its not work for me, i've been 3 years doing that. The hard part is missing your partner. Maybe you can move to your girlfriend's town, it would be better. Good Luck man.
@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
19 Apr 07
well.. poor of you. You should talk about this seriously. Communication is the best way.
@genuine_jnet (87)
• United States
6 May 07
befor I forget, talk with your partner about it, let her understand the situation. Whatever happens communication is also very important, and it should be an open and honest communication. AND LOVE LOVE LOVE honestly =).. I Know you'll gonna make it
@healer (1779)
• India
13 Apr 07
If she loves you she won't come up with the suggestion to break up, anyway long distance relationship is a bit risky and we cannot guarantee it to work fine. Just try seeing somebody who is ugly for few weeks than you will realize some emotional involvement will be there if she is caring and romantic. So, being apart means a lot and i think things might not be going on fine between you two according to what she suggested as its hard to say lets break up from a girls mouth.
@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
13 Apr 07
Missing someone too much is definitely not a reason for breaking up! I am on long-distant relationship and I miss my boyfriend terribly and we live on the farthest cities on the map. We don't get to see each other once a month, maybe once a year. But we are not breaking up because we miss each other "too much". We find ways to make each other feel closer. We talk on the phone when our time difference is alright, we try and email each other everyday, I call him to leave him a voicemail whenever I feel like doing it...etc. Communication is super important in a relationship. Both of you should try and communicate more than texts. Talk over the phone, do something special when you get to meet her once a month. Good luck!
Far in distance but close at heart :).
@kdonboi (1)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
wenks! f u can't move to their place, my advice are have a stronger faith in ur relationship, trust is the key to make it best!, always make her happy in everything u do, make her always important don't let her feeL that she's for granted and last but not the least always have the "SPARKS" it means there is something new to be discover in each of u everyday in ur lives to make ur love grow..i mean man f u can't do all of these its really really difficult coz i've been here in this kind of relationship for 1 yr n its damn hard! achus!
@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
Been there, done that! yeah its really hard to be in a long distance relationship. Im in to it, and i should know the feelings especially now that we've been apart for 2yrs...i miss him so much. Communication is very important. You should make an effort to at least text me every now and then,just to make both of you feel that your not that far from each other...if you really love her, just prove to her that she is the very important person in your life.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Long distance is very very hard. You really have to work at it. Its so easy to meet someone in real life and give up on a long distance love. The only advice I can give you is to kep working at it. Maybe plan to meeet in real life sometime. It can work because I have seen it work. but its not easy.
@nujrem20 (63)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Yup!!Its so very very hard!!I im afraid my girlfriend find a new guy!!She's so many suitors in their place!!But we always pray to god we set a time everyday that we will pray to god!!eventhough were far from each other!!!But still im afraid!!huhuhuh!!! =(
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@serena_wai (970)
• Malaysia
6 May 07
My advise is work on a plan. For example, this distance relationship will last for 3 years. At least u can go and pay her a visit. It is already so much better than other long distance relationship.
Give future a plans so that she always have something to looking forward. Maybe plan a little special occasion to pamper her or urself every 3 months. After one year, another great plan again. The reason of having this is to give a little sweatness after months of bitterness of missing each other.
Also, encourage her in her career/studies. Make sure she has something that always keep her fulfilled, contented and happy.
This is just my advice.
@genuine_jnet (87)
• United States
6 May 07
hmmmm....
been into that kind of relationship befor, been apart for more than a year. He was in Us that time and I was still in philippines. Proud to say we made it. But when we were together after a year we broke up =) haha
But don't be afraid of it. Our relationship was full of doubts in the first place.
In your case, It doesnt really matter that much if you have long distance relationship as long as both of you would be honest with each other. ABout times when one misses the other. You should meet halfway. Its either there will be a time you come to their house or she will go to your place. That's what a good relationship is.
Good luck and whatever happens be ready with the consequences =)
@ruthantolin (108)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
i've never been in a long distance relationship, but lately , even though my bf lives 2 hours away from ours, it is still a big deal. i am the type who should see my partner at least 3 times a week, and now that we see little of each other, other aspects of the relationship such as communication are also wearing down. we fight so much that we never get to move on and be like before.
i think, long distance wont work for me if i set things such as seeing him thaat often. our careers would definitely seperate as apart and i fear that sooner, the relationship will be out. i suggest that if you have all the efforts to work for it, then go. obviously, if your positive with your relationship, you can hurdle through with that setup. but as for my case, who lacks that optimism, maybe i'll just go with whatever is happening now. sad eh?
@digerati (286)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
hello nujrem,
since the distance is the problem, why don't you make it shorter?
if it is not possible, both of you must face the fact, that you can't and understanding with regards to that should be extended...
remember the first days,
digerati
@mian_26cutie (61)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
If she really loves you, she would'nt suggest to break up with you. Try to catch up things and understand one another. Communication is the best way to work a relationship.
@purnima175 (435)
• India
17 Oct 09
If she loves you she won't come up with the suggestion to break up, anyway long distance relationship is a bit risky and we cannot guarantee it to work fine. Just try seeing somebody who is ugly for few weeks than you will realize some emotional involvement will be there if she is caring and romantic. So, being apart means a lot and i think things might not be going on fine between you two according to what she suggested as its hard to say lets break up from a girls mouth