Why does my man do this?
By dlkuku
@dlkuku (1935)
United States
April 12, 2007 9:05pm CST
I don't know if all men do this, but I have heard a lot of women I know complain about it.
I will have a long day, working, taking care of things at home, running errands, or whatever. My husband will come home from work, plop himself in his favorite couch potato position with the remote control glued to his hand, and he barely speaks to me.
I will make him something to eat, clean up the kitchen, then try to relax, and after a bit I will tell him that I am off to bed. He usually tells me that he is going to watch a bit more tv.
By the time he comes to bed, I am usually sleeping or close to it.
THEN he decides to have a conversation!He will start asking me all these questions, or start telling me something that happened at work, and he will even wake me up to talk.
Now why can't he talk to me for the two hours before I go to bed? I will gladly sit down and talk to him but no, he is so engrossed in the tv during that time, so he waits until I am trying to sleep.
So what I want to know is how many women here have men who do this?And I want to know from the men, if you do this, WHY?
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@coconutpatty (834)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Our current situation here is different since I am not working yet. But I do recall this being a common occurrence prior to the move. I don't know what the deal with it was. He never really had an answer. Sometimes to avoid it all, I would just pretend to sleep. I know that sounds mean but I'm thinking....hey buddy you had your chance earlier. It's not my fault you want to talk now. But if this were all the other way around, they would let us know that we need to find a more appropriate time to talk to them.
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@mlgb_24 (638)
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13 Apr 07
well, i don't know, i think each person is different. my husband will arrive, and we'll have dinner...and then if it's football time, that's it, he's glued to the television...i think it's because it takes a lot of time and effort for men to unwind than women, lol! and i wonder as well, because they do tend to sleep late..hard to cope with that, lol!
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@pooja1464 (56)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I and my husband both are working, He also watches TV or reads magazines after he comes from his job. I don't talk to him at that time because i feel there should be sometime when nobody talks to him and he gets some relaxation. We start our discussion about the day so far at our dinner table. We go to bed at the same time.If he says he is gonna watch TV for some more time. I remind him that it is time to go to bed else he might get late for next day,Its time to rest. He then follows me. We go to bed have some talk there and go asleep.
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@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
19 Nov 07
My hubby does this also. Only thing, he is always ill when he comes home. He is so tired and he is grouchy. I cant say much of anything without him biting my head off. We dont even sleep in the same bed, because I snore. Oh well just remember what goes around comes around.
@ChaJudLeoBit (1656)
• United States
27 Oct 07
Men just like to be in solitude in front of the TV to 'unwind' from their day. They stay non-responsive, and un-interested. I have read that this is common, and to just let them have their unwind time before they want to return to the land of the living. Otherwise, they get grumpy and irritable. As for when we get our time to do that... Maybe after he's gone in the morning and the kids are off to school.
@02FreeSpirit22 (99)
• United States
25 Jun 07
I think it is in the male hormones! They want to do everything on their own schedule, and don't really care if that works well for us or not. I have to small children, and my husband will do that to. He wants to rest on the couch all evening, but as soon as I get the girls to sleep. Bam it's like the world series. He's talking and laughoing, and everything else. It's kinda funny, I joke about my kids getting a second wind if they don't nap. Well My husband gets his second wind when he does!
@Rickrocks8 (1751)
• United States
25 Jun 07
LOL Sorry but it is a bit funny because I think we have all been there. It's a good thing my hubby doesn't try this on me because I do not like to be woke up! Sigh...... you poor thing. About 20 minutes before you go to bed I would stand in front of the TV and say. " I'm going to bed now would you like to talk to me about your day while I am still awake?" Hopefully he isnt the type who will sulk and get hurt feelings if so I wouldn't take my suggestion. I have mine trained to not wake me unless it is really important. I hope it gets better so you can get some rest!
But you need to remember he is just a man and we will never understand them no matter how hard we try. I guess he really goes into shut down mode after work and he takes a long time to reboot! Maybe you would try flipping his switch! LOL
