what do you actually do when you're sad?

myahw, what you need to do is "step outside the circle", I think you are thinking of how you are feeling, too much! You need to separate,from yourself, and find ways that you can actually help other people! this will take your thinking off of yourself, and when you help other people, you actually feel better about yourself! Believe me I know,I've been through it, and now I actually go out of my way to help other people as much as possible,and I really feel proud,and they really appreciate it, and that makes me feel good about myself! I haven't gotten into the "dumps" in about 2 years, and I feel great, and not only that good things actually happen to me! The things, for instance that I try to do are: be nice, and converse with elderly people, they love it! interact with young children, treat them like people, they love it! Whenever it's time to pay,be the first to offer to pay,(if you have money)! Be polite when you meet and greet people! I have a little band, and we go and play for free for nursing homes, where the residents never get to see any entertainment! Every time there is a benefit for somebody we volunteer to go play for free! When I see somebody doing a chore I offer to help them! And when ever someone needs advice or information on something, if I know it I help them or at least try to find out for them! If you will at least give this some thought, maybe you'll be able to grab a hold of the "rope" and pull youself up, out of the dungeon! And keep conversing with us, some of us out here to help others!! We don't mind

Well most of them either smoke or drink to get out of the depression..but its also said medically that smoking increases depression and tend to smoke more which is bad for health!

i MEET SOME OF MY FRIENDS WHO HAVE POSITIVE ATTITUDE SATISH

when i am very sad and fighting depression i try to look at the brighter side of things in my life. its not easy but i think of lesser lucky people and the hardships and disturbances that they go through. if say, i've got a poor appraisal in office and others have had a better deal financially, i sit back and fight my tears (maybe in the loo). then i try to think of all the positive contributions of this office to my life. then i think of other working women like my who put in much more labour and still get paid half of what i get. when my son performs badly in class, i try to think of those parents whose children often fail and are not intelligent enough to get the grades. i think by now you have understood what i am trying to say. another favourite therapy of mine is soft, soothing music. it really churns out your most intimate sorrows and after sometime you feel really light again. hope the above works for you too.

One thing that I like to do when I get that down, is to listen to music that gets me up and going, fills me with happiness. Or I'll find my friends online that can always make me laugh, and see if they can do it at that time. Otherwise, I just lay in bed, cry my eyes out, and just let it roll out of me and purge myself like that. It can be very cleansing to just let go sometimes, and accept that it needs to be done. It's hard to get out of that slump, though, if you're doing it constantly. Finding things in your life to bring you joy like books, movies, friends, or anything at all is a great way to get away from things like that, and help you out in the long run.