How'd you move on after a painful BROKE-UP?

I had a very painful broke-up in 1997 and it was nearly hard for me to forget her. I had four years long affair with her and then it suddenly brokeup . Her mother didn't used to like me and then one day she just moved away from my life. Yes, I agree with you that time heals all wounds. I have a better partner now and I'm married to her. I cried for some 3 months continuosly as it was a major emotional loss for me. But I didn't left my college and continued my hobbies like cricket and snooker which diverted my mind from topic.

I remeber it well. He decided that he was not the father of our child when I told him he was going to be a dad. I have not seen him since. That was 14 years ago. It took me a long long time to get over the hurt, so long in fact my son was 2 when I met the man of my dreams & married him.

Let no one have a moment of broke- up, Yes it is most painful, sometimes you or someone Have to overcome it.

hi berryappleberry! I only had one exboyfriend and we had 7 long years so when he left me for another girl as well, i was in a turmoil and i find it hard to move on. It took me almost a year and a half before i was able to completely move on. Well, same thing, i talked to God in a form of a prayer and to myself as well that if we're meant to be we'll still find its way back (but it didn't happen though). There's no days and nights that im not crying, but i overeat, i talked to his mom (we're close, i treated her like my own mom, actually more than my biological mom)talked to my friends as well and i always visit the blessed sacrament, light candles in the altar and novena's. I went to manila to work and make my self busy, and i often find my self window shopping, visiting my relatives and friends. It's not that easy though, the night before going to bed, im still thinking about him, our memories together and everything we had in the relationship. Gradually, i was able to accept the fact that we're not meant to be. I went online, updated my friendster, joined itz-amatch.com, joined any finding partner online. I dated and entertain suitors and gradually i was able to completely move on.

Oh my recent break up was terrible, it took me around 8 months before I started to feel a little human again. We broke up (it was bad) and I didn't let myself cry. Like you said, I occupied myself with new hobbies (yoga), DVDs & movies (you don't think about anything when you're watching), books (try to concontrate), hanging out with my friends (but refrained myself from talking about the breakup/ him after a week). I would say the friends part help me alot in going through my breakup. They are really my best friends and I still can't thank them enough!

Its true that theres no instant healing. Any wound, either physical or emotional needs time to heal. Just as the same as the physical wound, we need remedies and need to be taken care off. You need some thing to divert your attention and need to take care in choosing another person to love. Little by little, you can get over with. Take not: Time heal all wounds.