I've just done something really stupid.

ha! well let me ask you something: why do you care? real friend should know how the situation is, either if you were a couple or not, and they shouldn't care! and the rest is just irrelevant, in my opinion you shouldn't care as much about what "town is thinking" :P oh and now that you've lied please answer this question: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/967982.aspx by_

Yes I know sometimes the things we say can come back to bite us in the butt, but I guess the word is out now. In my travels telling the truth has always paid off because you can spill the beans so easily. Take Care.

I think if you admit you dont have a boy friend, then you should forth-with stop deceiving your self and your town folk.If the world out there know of your relationship with Garry which you seem to deny, I think public oppinion is trying help you take certain decisions. I dont know what you feel about Garry yourself, but if I were you, and unless there was anything particularly distasteful about Garry, i would begin to take him very seriously as a boy friend, Why? because you really dont have one at the moment and surely, you need one!

Well I really wouldn't worry too much. These people sound like typical, small-minded, small town folk with too much time on their hands, and nothing better to do than talk about their neighbours, - so who really cares what they think.? If telling them you have a boyfriend shuts them up so that they leave you alone and stop their embarrassing talk about Gary, - well that is all good in my opinion. You don't owe them anything. Lifwe is too short to stress about people like that - who cares what they think - they don't own you, and you owe them nothing!

Don't sweat it , just forget it. You don't have to feel like you owe people any of your personal life , don't let it get you down ,just keep being friends with Gary and ignore the rest, hold your head high and keep on a big smile :)

LOL, tickles. For a while there, I thought you are going to share some outrageous confession. I was very surprised though, knowing Australia is more liberated than my country. Correct me if I'm wrong here. Don't mind that kind of people. They are nothing but who like to gossip. Anyway, it happened years ago. I don't think what you did was wrong. You are just trying to clear the air between you and Gary. :)

Why do people think that they need gossip? Does it brighten someone's day to think that they have "got something on you"? I would have told that kid that my personal life is none of his business and left it at that. I wouldn't let it bother me. You ARE allowed to have friends without getting the approval of the town folks. I hope it gets better for you.

Well you can conveniently break up with said boyfriend, and still be free of the rumor of sleeping with Gary. It is really no one's business, but they evidently do not have anything better to do with their time besides gossip. I am curious, how does Gary feel about this rumor? Will he help you squelch it?

well its really a little thing for me. you may feel a little foolish on this but i dont totally agree with you. i mean it is your way of telling these people to stop bugging you and there could be no better way.

Oh, It'll be all right, it was only a little white lie. You cannot take back what you have already said. And I suppose if the town are gossiping about you, they are leaving someone else alone. Go with the flow and have fun with it. Gee but I can imagine what people must be saying if this kid just came out and said that.

well this kind of things happen all the time dont they?when i was in college i was very close with one of my juniors and i used to help her out a lot and within a few days we were the talk of the college and all sorts of crappy remarks that we were an item and we slept together and all that sorts of stuff.she was and still is a good friend of mine for crying out loud.we just got so used to it that we ignored all those comments and got along with our lives because the more we think about the more we tend to get mad and frustrated about it.

That is a shame they re putting you in a position where you feel you have to defend yourself. They should feel bad, not you. I wouldn't worry, it was only a fib.

People need to mind their own buisness! Dang this gets on my nerves!! I really don't think you did anything bad. Sure you lied, and I know that is a sin. I mean, but really!! I get this everyday. People putting their nose in other peoples buisness, when half the people doing it, don't even know you that well!! Who are you to talk about what I do? Ya know??? I am so sorry to hear you have to put up with this. I just want you to know you are not alone! Good luck.

do not feel like that. i know alot of people that say they r with someone and they really r not with anyone. i also know someone that is with someone and he denise being with anyone but me. let people think what they want and do not worry. people have nothing better to do than talk about everyonelse. what people need to realise is this they need to keep thier noises out of everyones business and clean up thier own back yard first. until then people have know room to talk.

Well I would not worry about it as I would have said the same thing People just seem to have this habit of jumping to conclusions all the time and it just annoys me Why can't they just ask if they want to know the truth

Don't Feel bad... That one is understandable mine was kind of worse.. I went to my class reunion. I was asked by an old friend if I still talked with my brother well.. I lost touch with my brother but I was told he got into trouble for looking at naked pictures. So an old friends in Highschool asked me, if I still talked to him, I said sometimes. Lying because I felt it was rude not to talk to family members... She then showed me a pictures of her children, and I said oh how cute, Then I closed one eye and looked at their faces and imagined drawing their faces and their hair with my index finger.. Then smiled at her and told her they were very cute little ones... That is when she slammed her photos down and said, you are just like your brother? Then she mimicked my finger movements and made vulgar comments, and I said that is not what I meant. So I told her what I was doing and she then started in about how sick I was for associating with my brother, and informed me he had raped a young boy.. Now, I said he did not, he was totally against that crap. She said he did too! ... I said well if he did I never heard anything about it! She said how could you not it was all over the news! ... Well... a year later... When he was released from jail it was all over the news what he did.. and I felt horrible.... And I lost a friend over a lie, because I did not want to look bad or horrible for not associating with my own adopted brother, without knowing what he had done. I am the only one in my family who still uses the word brother with him, although I have had zero contact with him since freshman year in highschool.... So that lie was backfired bad, and I am usually truthful so I figured that would not hurt saying I was in touch with my brother... I felt set-up on that one, with her trying to make me out to be doing the same crap he had done. :( So that hurt. Your lie is understandable, Mine is too. I am just thankful that you are not being hurt in the same way as I am over what happened.. I can not help that my Brothers and Sisters turned out to do alot of the bad things they have done or do, that is not my fault... So it is not fair for me to be judged because I grew up with people who are selfish and non-caring all around me.... And I did grow up with many who were non selfish and caring. I do not believe it is fair to lable a whole family as bad due to rotten eggs, and if my family has 4 rotten eggs out of 33. Ya know, I think my family does a wonderful job! .. so pththth on the rest :). Take care and thanks for letting me share and tell my story with you - DNatureofDTrain

Well sometimes we have to tell lies to save our face, its liek a defense mechanism that snaps lik an automatic defense that our system aloows us to cope with. Well anywhere we go when people hear something about someone and some eventually talk about it in the long run and it happens even in our place where people are more conservative.

It's okay my friend. At least, it would live something for them to think about. And as long as you know what the real truth is. You don't have to worry about them. It is so annoying that people can't view a guy and a girl togheter as friends only. I had a guy friend too before, we were oftenly teased etc.. But as long as we knew the truth about our friendship. The other nosey people didn't matter. I hope by now you're feeling fine. Have a nice day! (^^,)

Awwe. Well, I don't think it was really that big of a deal, and nothing to feel foolish over! Sometimes a little lie is necessary to get people to back off and mind their own damned business, though I would have told them to screw off myself. Good luck with it, hun.