have u faced this or doing this??

I'm the elder son of family. My dad and mom aren't used of expressing their love. To be true Elder sister is favorite of mother and younger brother of dad. I have been through many problems from childhood. It's like bond of money which keeps me attached to family. This sounds weird but yes this is the fact . My mom and dad are a big businessman and businesswoman but they hardly care about me . I don't want to speak anything ahead better I keep my mouth shut. Enjoy !!!

Though I hate to admit this I do find myself treating my one daughter different than the other in some ways,letting the younger ones friends stay over or letting her off the hook for doing a chore.The older one , who's 17 and her sister is 14, is hard to get along with and has been in more trouble and always causing trouble.Her friends most of them I like less. I don't know I try not to or at least I'm becoming more aware of it.

u feel so since it might have taken place wit u but ...not always true.....babies has to be given more care i can say

We are 3 children to our parents and neither my mom nor my dad treat us with discrimination.But since iam the only the last and only female child in my family its my dad who has little soft corner for me which i can understand now.i have personally seen parents treating their sons differently to daughters.But i feel its a bad attitude and this can hard feeling among the siblings.

yes i have seen this happening. last year when i went to my village i had a quarrel with a friend on the same matter. he said boys will always live with there parents they will be there when there parents need them in there old age i dont think girl would do this is why they are treated in this manner. i said him do u know why our country is underdeveleped becouse of u peaple. u peaple have no other job but to believe in all these nonsence. i india this is one of the problem among uneducated peaple. i think we all should all have only one child. so that these all things dont get into our head and this would also decrease the rate of growing population.

I think some parents do show favoritism for one child more than another. But in most cases, parents show more attention toward one child because of that childs different needs. For example, a parent may need to pay more attention to a child that has special needs. Or, in my case, a parent may need to show more attention to a new baby than an older child.

I felt so being the elder one I always felt that my brother was more loved not by may parents but by aunt and uncles and grandparents. he was cherished as the male hier to the family. As I grew up I have realised it had nothing to do with me apparently , the younger one in the family is naturally loved by everyone. Adored and pampered. I must have been when I was little but when he came I had suddenly become a grwon up girl and they forgot that I was little too. It happens and thats why we have what is called sibling rivalry. In case of my kids I have often talked to my son about how e feels about our daughter and as we shower more attention on her, they have a seven year gap so he is quite protective and understanding.He says You used to do that with me too mom. And I do breathe a sigh of relief.

I do believe that even how hard parents try to be equal with there children, unconsiously they still have this favorite one. Well, I have experience it myself with my family, as much as my mum tries to balance the attention they give to us still favoritsm is still there.

I personally think that there is one child in every family who is treated different because for some reason that child thinks it is overlooked or the "blacksheep" and the parents tend to pay more attention to that child to make them not feel this way. And I think tha that child ends up not appriciating the parents and the one who never needed that kind of attention is the one who is always there for the parents when the one they bent over backwards for is never there for them.

i see it all the time not just love or effection but each child is treated and brought up differently

I went through this as a youngster. My mother treated my sister with far more love and affection than she did me. It hurt because it went on right till after I moved out. It's something that she only admitted to recently, and that was only because I pushed the issue after she had a huge fall out with my sister. Otherwise, it's something that she probably would never have admitted to. It doesn't take away the pain but at least she admitted it, and thats all I wanted, for her to acknowledge what she'd done. She also did the same with my children before I moved. She had my daughter far more than my boys, and I was left to explain to my heartbroken son why Nana didn't love him like she did his sister. It made me so angry with my mom that she'd do that and then walk out with my daughter for 2 nights leaving me with a distraught son who'd wanted to spend some time with his Nana too. As a result of that though, I've been very careful to not do the same with my children. They're all individual and they all have their own personalities, but they're entitled to the exact same things that their siblings are. To treat one with more love and affection than the rest isn't fair.

Though I hate to admit this I do find myself treating my one daughter different than the other in some ways,letting the younger ones friends stay over or letting her off the hook for doing a chore.The older one , who's 17 and her sister is 14, is hard to get along with and has been in more trouble and always causing trouble.Her friends most of them I like less. I don't know I try not to or at least I'm becoming more aware of it.

I thinks its not favoritism or not being treated equally parents love all their siblings. It's a matter of approach to parents. Parents have diffreent approach to each child because they have different personality. It might look unequally but for the parents, that;s how they handle the needs of every child. I think it is really biased to say parents are treating their child unequally. Parents don;t want to happen something bad to their kids. It'sa matter of approach or it is tailored for the needs of their kids That is how i see it!Goodluck!

I agree with you, Siblings should br treated equal

I don't agree that any one child should be treated differently from any other, especially within the same family. This problem occurred within my family, with my brother's children. His first daughter was brought up in quite an adult way... she was taught to do chores and behave in an adult way from a very young age. "Nothing wrong with chores", I hear you echo, and I agree, but that's not the whole story. Some nine years later, after a miscarriage in between, a sister was born, and naturally, the older girl had to show a lot of responsibility for the sister, and do things for her, take the blame for things that her sister had done wrong, etc. Now, they're grown. The older daughter is 24, coming up 25 and the other 15, coming up 16. The younger is a terror! She's spoiled, rebellious and very difficult to handle. Unfortunately, the marriage split when my brother left some 2-3 years ago. The elder one moved out to live with her boyfriend... they bought a house some ten miles from the family home. The mother can't cope with the younger, and the older one has a chip on her shoulder... thought it was all her fault that the family broke apart, and thought everybody hated her. She went into a fit of depression, was crying all the time and not eating. She wouldn't speak to her father, because he was always the one she could turn to and he had desserted her. She's ok now and has made peace with everybody, but it was a bad time for her. Sorry to go on so much, but this is just an example of what "preferential" treatment between siblings can do to their future lives. I disagree with it, as do you. Thank you for a very interesting, quality discussion Aissha. Brightest Blessings, my friend.

my husband faced it but didn't really notice it till now and he's 25. his is the only resposible one out of the bunch. his brothers are lazy and very bad with money, so their mother always bails them out and pays their bills. if they want something they get it right away, where as my husband worked like 4 jobs when he was 16 to get what he wanted. and now, we owe his parents just a tiny bit of money and she makes him feel super guilty and guilt trips him into doing stuff for them, yet his brother owes them over $14,000 and she doesn't do anything about it but help him out more. we are very careful not to do that to our kids. we love them both the same and we give them equal love and attention.

Well even i do not belive that parents treat their siblings indifferently it is just a mind set between the siblings minds and they tend to react that he or she is the favorite of the parents and then the enigma begins but as for me me and my sisters were all given equal treatment love and affection by my parents so no i do not agree with this concept of the favorite child

Yea, its always a case in many families, mine is not exception. My mum loved my big brother more than anybody, but hers was understandable cuz my big brother was the only son then. Even when she got another boy the paritial treatment continued, it got a stage WE never bothered again. i dont pray to have a fovorite child, i would love to treat all my children equally. Notwithstanding though, parents always love a well behaved, intelligent child more than stuborn ones, so l dont pray to have a stuborn baby.