If you don't like it then put a blanket over your head or go eat in the bathroom

United States
October 19, 2006 4:51pm CST
I am tired of the nasty looks and rude comments people give to me when I nurse my baby in public. It's not like I am exposing my boobs to the entire world. I am discreet. Why are people so rude? What are your opinions on this?
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29 responses
• United States
19 Oct 06
You know that nobody wants to eat in the bathroom, so why would you want to feed you baby in the bathroom? I had this happen to me at a baseball game. My husband and I brought our three children to a game and we were sitting in the high up cheap seats. I moved to a relatively empty area of seats and had a attendent approach me and ask me if I would be more comfortable in the "family restroom". I said sure assuming that this restroom would be comparable to the ones that malls and theme parks now offer. No, it was not. It was a dirty toilet with no seat that would go down. I walked right back out of there and nursed my baby in my seat watching the game. I have nothing against bottle feeding, but I do not understand why someone would give anyone a hard time for giving your baby the healthest thing in the world for him.
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• United States
19 Oct 06
I completely agree. I am glad there are laws against this because I was asked to leave a restaurant one time because I was making the other guests uncomfortable. My baby was covered up too, but a man said he wanted to switch tables because just the thought of what I was doing was making him sick.
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• United States
19 Oct 06
If you kick just one person in the butt...what a jerk!
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• United States
20 Oct 06
I am not offended and I am sure that some moms have babies that will happily go back and forth from bottle to nipple, but some do not.
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@ArsonCuff (3114)
• United States
21 Oct 06
and maybe they are tired of seeing you nurse a baby...or maybe they are offended by the baby itself..who knows? but we all have different tastes and preferences and we all have to get along I guess on this planet...I personally would not want to see someone nursing their baby, but I would not give a dirty look or complain or really care...on the otherhand you are wanting them to be more tolerant..well why can't yu be more tolerant of their wants and go pop your nipple in the baby's mouth in a private area? see it is a two way street and no one is going to make any head-way in the traffic jam of feelings and morals, boobies and dirty stares.
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@maddog108 (3435)
• Australia
20 Oct 06
that really gets up my nose too.the little guys need to eat theres nothing wrong with that.stand your ground if they dont like it then they can always leave.and as for the rude coments throw some back at them
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• United States
25 Oct 06
I agree. There is no reason to even be discreet. It is perfectly natural and if you feel comfortable doing it, by all means keep doing it. Ignore the stares. The insecurity of other people is their own problem.
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• Australia
20 Oct 06
Couldn't have put it better myself. Next thing ya know mum's will get abused for having a screaming child because too many people have made it a perverted thing.
@srhelmer (7029)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
25 Oct 06
If you're being discreet, there is absolutely nothing wrong with breatfeeding your child in public. It's better than them witnessing you beating your child or something.
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@limcyjain (3516)
• India
25 Oct 06
let them be annoyed you go on every mother has a right to feed her baby.
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@USchick (159)
23 Oct 06
I agree with this so much! I actually told someone once when they were looking at me funny that their slurping noises and the way they were eating was grossing me out, so if they could go sit in the bathroom I would appreciate it. They stopped looking at me after that.
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@USchick (159)
23 Oct 06
I just wanted to add as well, when I used to nurse in public, I would use a blanket to cover myself up while latching my son on, but once he was latched on, I had it down to a nack so that it looked like I was just holding him, not feeding him.
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@fritz27 (1136)
• United States
23 Oct 06
if your blanket is covering your baby's face, then they wouldn't see anything........therefore they should mind their own business and be happy you have your child and are taking care of it. people spend too much time looking down their noses at people who care for their children and not at the ones who lock their kids in cars, leave them locked in closets, leave them to starve, etc. feed your baby and next time someone gives you the dirty look, stare back at them or ask if there is a problem. or do what i probably would do...........stick my tongue out. sorry, that was rude.
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@kpfingaz (1027)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
22 Oct 06
They just immature but to tell you the truth I get embarrassed cause i think if she see me looking even if i didn't mean to see they think i'm some kind of pervert.
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@nisheeth (505)
• India
25 Oct 06
same
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@erielle (1280)
• United States
25 Oct 06
Most people do not mean to be rude. They just get embarrased easy. Society has really changed some things. I think that you have every right to nurse your baby in public, as long as you are discreet.
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@HallE2386 (341)
• United States
23 Oct 06
i feel if someone doesnt feel comfortable than just walk away or turn your head. I dont see why people get so weirded out..like they havent seen a boob before...you see one you pretty much have seen them all. But if your so uncomfortable then dont look...simple as that!
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@zeus1a (1046)
• Netherlands
23 Oct 06
From the moment you cover yourself i am suprised myself that people do react.But unfortunately many bad people exist around us..I would just not care..I would focus on the baby and they beauty of it.I believe it worths much more than listening to stupid comments..dont u think so?
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@Cortney (3980)
• United States
25 Oct 06
people are just crazy.. a baby has to eat.. its no different then putting a bottle in the babies mouth.. as long as a person doesn't flop it out .. its ok
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• United States
23 Oct 06
I know! I hate that. Those people can go jump off a cliff. Our babies have the right to eat in public just like you!
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@HerShe (2383)
• Canada
20 Oct 06
I don't know what is wrong with people when it comes to nursing mothers. I think it might be because they keep looking and feel strange about their own behavior. It is easier for them to get a grip on their eyes if your not there. I nursed all my babies, I felt like you. "If you have a problem with, then YOU leave. That's what they are really for. Get over it!!" I'm with you on that one.
• India
20 Oct 06
its ok just ignore them let them say anything
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
21 Oct 06
I think the baby's needs have to come first. If you are in public and the baby needs to be nursed, then you must nurse it. Some people just have idea's in there head that come from who knows where that one should do this in private. I disagree, but that's just how people are.
@thisisme (263)
• United States
20 Oct 06
well i personally wont look at anyone breas t feeding there baby. but as for me. i used to want to be private when i fed her. I just felt unconfortable. So dont worry about it. its not illegal = )
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@twmoores (566)
• United States
20 Oct 06
I understand... its hard I just got to the point I would go to the car and bf my baby. I was also getting it at work when I would put the milk in the fridge, it was in a cont. in a bag but there were some nosey people.
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@hardin (205)
• United States
20 Oct 06
if they dont like it its there problem why r u worried.u have to think about ur hungry child first.let other people go to hell.u just ignore them.
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