i'm full, no i'm not

Canada
April 13, 2007 11:31am CST
every meal my daughter tries to pull this. she's too full for supper and then she wants desert. i said but you are full, well i'm just a little full or i'm not full anymore. always room for desert i guess. if your child does this do you give them desert or say go finish your supper if your not full then. usually i'll tell her to eat a few more bites of her supper if she wants something else.
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@msmamaof2 (367)
• United States
13 Apr 07
How old is she? My son is 4 and does the same thing...there's always room for desert mom! LOL
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• Canada
13 Apr 07
she is 3. she always wants a snack after about 10 -15 minutes after her meal, even though she got down from the table and said she was really full. i kind of think she just doesn't want to sit at the table and eat and she wants her snack while she plays.
@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
13 Apr 07
The easy solution to that is to stop giving her dessert after every meal. If she doesn'tcome to expect the extra, empty calories to fill her up, then she will be more likely to eat here dinner. The other solution is to make the dessert as nutritious as the dinner. Things like a fruit crisp, rice pudding with raisins, and tapioca are nutritious AND sweet. But seriously, stop the desserts. If you want one yourself, simply wait a few hoursuntil she is in bed for the night. My kids grew up knowing that dessert was a treat, not part of the dinner menu.
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• Canada
13 Apr 07
actually we don't have a planned desert every night. i never make desert. she usually asks for a snack 10 minutes after eating. i just thought it was easier to explain my question with using desert, instead of a snack. usually she comes back with i'm hungry 10 to 15 minutes after supper so that's why i called it desert. it's still not far after supper. but i usually don't offer a desert after supper.
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@avonrep1 (1862)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I don't have this problem very often, because I don't think desert should be an everyday thing. It is an every once in a while thing at my house. When we do have desert, my kids know they have to eat everything on their plates or they do not get any. I mainly reserve desert for when I am making something for dinner, that I know that they are not really going to like. They eat it without complaining, because they know, if they don't no desert. When children know what to expect, they stop pulling stuff like this.
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@jay_em93 (99)
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
Kids are always like that,if you let them have their own way then they win and you lose, set your rules and don't let anyone or anything break it, if they know that you're not going to give them dessert if they don't finish their meal then they'll it it.
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• China
14 Apr 07
Deserts are always so attractive. Even grown-ups have to check their favor for deserts. I have a preference for fruits. I eat less in dinner sometimes because I am full and sometimes because I'm trying to lose weight. However, I can always eat lots of fruit after dinner. So, I think you don't need to worry about it too much, since it's a very common phenomenon. Nevertheless, if you find your girl is overweight, you have to reconsider it.
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• Malaysia
14 Apr 07
erm.. i don't know.. but in my opinion... erm.. how old is your daughter? i used to be like this too when i was young.. i still remembered i used to cause trouble for my mum because of such behaviour.. you know.. kids.. they always want something nice.. and.. they sometimes don't prefer meal.. hope you get what i mean :)
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@shorva (923)
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
I understand what your saying, my neice does this too, when I use to baby sit her. I always have to force her to finish her meal but after a couple of spoons she'll say she's full. 10 minutes later she'll ask for a snack, not really just desert but a bag of chips or cookies. I always give in because I don't want her to get hungry and I've already thrown her dinner. So what I did is I tell her that she can't eat any snacks unless she finish her meal, and have to be firm with it. It worked on her.
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• Bangladesh
14 Apr 07
Usually its not advisable to offer snack after meal. I will take it as a bad practice. So give her a full meal with nutrition advice her for enough water after meal.
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@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
i have the same experience, infact last week when my 2yr old daughter gets vomiting because her stomach is too full. she already had eaten dinner, then she drink one glass of milk, then she also eaten one piece of banana, that's it makes her vomit. i was feel afraid but i wasn't panic. after she vomits, i put oil on her stomach and gives her warm water to drink..sometimes, our kids really want to eat though they almost full but we need to watch what there eat that makes bad for them, sometimes..
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@bluewings (3857)
14 Apr 07
Can't blame her.Desserts are hard to resist and even if I say I am full after a meal ,when I am not,I might show interest in the dessert,lol.I guess you could serve her a small serving of the dessert and let her know that as she still has space for more dessert she should eat a little more before she gets to the remaining dessert.She might just listen to you once she knows she can have more dessert.
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• Canada
13 Apr 07
One solution would be to make sure that the snack is a healthy addition to her diet. Then you are really just elongating her meal time. Might be better than doing the dance every mealtime.
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@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Our daughter used to say the same thing. So now the rule is if you eat dinner you get a snack. If you choose to not finish your dinner then you give up dessert or snack whatever we have that night. It seems to have helped alot. She eats alot better now.
@Damacoy (65)
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
I think you should buy books and read them on how to feed your duaghter. It is a matter of discipline so that the child will eat on time. Also, presentation of the food being served is one factor for your kids to eat. Ask her what she wants, like scrambbled egg or sunny side up. IN this way, you;; know what she wants. ask her always and give her choices so that she will think she is commane with her food. ask her if she wants fried chicken or fried pork chop , vegetable salad or potato salad. Hope this would help.! Do good!
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@wendee (359)
• Canada
13 Apr 07
My chidren are always given the option to stop eating. If your full then you can put your plate away, but no dessert/snacks unless the plate of food is eaten. With the older ones, they get to decide how much or each item they would like on their plate. This way its not me who tells them how hungry they are, they know what they like best. Good Luck!
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
14 Apr 07
We don't eat dessert unless it's a special day- Later at night if my daughter is hungry she can have a small snack.. Fruit or granol bar-- something healthy. Try that- Then she'll eat her dinner. I never make my daughter finish everything on her plate-- If she has alot left I tell her the next meal to not put so much on. I think we have this problem of child obesity because people are still in the mindset of clean off your plate. I tell her to eat until she is feels full.. No overeating-
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
16 Apr 07
The only way Heather ever got desert was if she ate all her vegies. I did not care about the meat or the potatoes. She got used to doing without desert that she started eating her veggies. She learned fast since I did not give in. My mom would pull the switch and tell her she had to eat her desert before she could have her veggies and some times this worked. Heather was never a kid that liked a lot of sweets. She loved sweet potatoes and still does.
@dfinster (3528)
• United States
13 Apr 07
My daughter used to do hat all the time when she was younger. She could get away with it evertime with my husband. When that stopped working and she knew we were on to her, she started pulling the "I don't feel good." thing. So she was doing the not feeling good thing one night and I didn't act like it was a big deal. I told her she could be done. She did her little "sick" act over to the couch. I waited for like 10 minutes and then asked her if she wanted a candy bar. She flew off the couch and ran into the kitchen to get it. I told her I thought she was sick and that's when she knew the gig was up! LOL! She hasn't ever done that again.
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@KissThis (3003)
• United States
13 Apr 07
My daughter use to say the same thing to me. After a while I started telling her " If you can't eat a little more of your dinner then I won't be able to give you a snack later." After doing this a couple of times she has learned to try to eat half of the food on her plate. It isn't that she doesn't like the food it really is because she feels full. My daughter eats every two hours. Which is hard with her going to school. Her doctor told me that the way she eats is actually better for her then to have 3 large meals.
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