who do you love more
By poppoppop111
@poppoppop111 (5731)
Canada
April 13, 2007 7:25pm CST
your husband or your children. or is it equal. i saw a lady on tv who wrote a book about it how she loves her husband more than her kids. and that she's told her kids that. she says she got to pick her husband and not her kids so that's her reasoning to saying she loves him more. would you ever say this to your kids. i could never and i could never love anyone as much as i love my daughter.
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29 responses
@massageeh (965)
• Taiwan
14 Apr 07
I would only say it if I don't want my children to stay with us anymore. What kind of reasoning is that? Although, I didn't read the book, and can't judge. But, that's just weird. I'm married with no children, but if I did I would love both equally. But, in our Asian culture... many had said that daughters were the girlfriends of the husband, that's why daughters are always closer to the father. Is that true? Is your daughter closer with your husband?
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@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
14 Apr 07
my 3 year old daughter does love her dad but we aren't together anymore so she spends most of her time with me. i'd have to say she's closer to me due to that. who knows who she would be closer to though if he lived here. he doesn't make the time for her and we spend so much quality time together.
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@massageeh (965)
• Taiwan
14 Apr 07
Sorry to hear that. But, I'm sure she'll probably become a better person with you. I don't dig irresponsible dads, although I'm a guy, I think dad's should be more responsible. Not to offend anyone. My thoughts.
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@chaygylmommy (2470)
• United States
14 Apr 07
oh my gosh! i can never imagine saying that any child, especially my own! what a horrible thing to say! I love my children more than my husband. I love them all and of course, I love them differently, but if it came down to my husband or my kids...I have to say my husband would get the boot. And, I know he feels the same about me. See, we had a friend of a friend who's husband got thrown in jail AGAIN...well, they took her daughter from her because she let him come back to the house after he got out of jail. They threatened to take her unborn child, too. She had to THINK about what to do!!! Me and my husband had a discussion about this at that point. I told him that if anyone ever said "your hubby or your kids"...he would be out the door faster than he could blink. He agreed and said it would be the same thing for him. I love that about him. The children should be number one!
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@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
16 Apr 07
i think it's great how you've discussed it and you both realize the kids are more important god for bid if something happens and that they would come first.
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@cjthedog64 (1552)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I love them equally I guess. I love DH and DS with all my heart, but in different ways. I couldn't tell either of them that I loved them best, because they're different people. I do feel differently about my stepkids than DS, but that's because I'm his mom, and I can't change my skids history with their mom. Wouldn't want to either. But I do love them, and I tell them so often. I chose to be in their family, just as I chose to be in DH's family. DH and I made the choice for DS to be in our family, and it's our job to raise him and teach him how to love. :)
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@mama4kids (690)
• United States
14 Apr 07
omg..no thought needed in this one. my kids by far!!! i can do with out my husband, if need be, but i could never live without my kids. i cant believe someone would tell her kids that too. what a freak!!
@crimsonrose (147)
• Bangladesh
14 Apr 07
Its a relative matter. At time it seems she loves both equally.. may be 99%/100%... that doesnt matter atall..
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@roshnichaudhary (1160)
• United States
14 Apr 07
Sorry if you find the answer very serios.
There is a poem in Hindi in which the poet says "God and Priest both are standing in front of me, whome should I worship first : I will worship the priest who taught me who is God."
Same here, even if I love my son too much I could not find him without my hubby so I love my hubby more.
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@mememama (3076)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I love them eually. If I could only choose one, I'd choose my son. I think this is because he is so small and depends on me. I wouldn't tell my kids I love my husband more, that is really crazy! I did pick my husband but I also brought our child into this world and am responsible for him.
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@aciddrop (798)
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14 Apr 07
my parents are and will be always in the first place in my life.as for husband and kids,i guess the latter probably will be more important to me.even if i love my husband more,i wont let my kids know.i dont want them to feel less loved,which might hurt a lot.
@gabesmom (1246)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I love my husband as much as my son. However, if I would have to choose at this point, I would have to choose my son. The reason is that my husband would be able to take care of himself without me but my son cannot since he's just 15-months old. When my son is grown and able to live his own life, then I'd choose my husband. It's not a matter of loving one over the other but who needs me more.
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@rubiana6 (270)
• Brazil
15 Apr 07
this is a strange question, and this person on tv, who wrote this book has to be also a strange person. Its a question like do you love one kid more than the other. You dont. and you dont love your husband more than your children. you love them different. not less or more, just different. The love to your children is of a totally different nature than the love to your husband. I also love my parents very much. i love them not less nor more than my children or husband, only different.
@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I love my kids more. That's not saying that I don't love my husband, because I do. And I would never say anything like that to my kids! Thats a horrible thing to say. So what you didn't pick your kids. They are apart of you. Your flesh and blood. Your husband's not. I can't believe someone would say that.
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@assertive (44)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I love my children as well as my husband. I am concerned by each member of my family. If my husband or my children suffer, I feel the same compassion and the same pain. I really think that there musn't be a difference since each person of my family is very precious to me. My fight for each one will be exactly equal. No, there is no difference, they are all at the same level and so dear. Showing preferences might be hurtfull. I believe in equality among members of a family.
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@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
15 Apr 07
its like I love meat and i love rice together they are great choosing which I would like to eat for dinner would be difficult but I guess i would have to chose my child has an advantage as he can't hurt me the way his father can or he wont as he was not though that way
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@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
15 Apr 07
I don't think i can even make a choice in the first place! It is a sad thing to hear a mom say that to her kids. The parents is all the kids have. For a child to hear such remark from their own mom is heart breaking for sure.
Honestly speaking, husbands can always marry another woman. Can kids find another parent? - Lyn
@touchofjupiter (157)
• United States
15 Apr 07
Let's put it this way: You can divorce your husband, you can't divorce your child. That automatically defines where the strongest bonds naturally lie. And, with me, it is no different. I love my husband. But, I love my child more than any creature on this planet (or any other planet).
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