love vs perfection

Perfection doesn't exist, we all are equally imperfect. In love, we should look for people with good heart and great wisdom....

People tend to look for some sort of perfection. Or whatever is perfection to us. And indeed there is a stage in love where we kind of see only the positives minimizing any negatives even when they are quite visible. That's one of the first stages and - unfortunately :) or maybe not - after a while that stage passes and that's when we noticed that our perfect partner squeezes the toothpaste the wrong way, forgers to put down the toilet sit and has a silly laugh LOL Hopefully by that time we already got into another stage where we can see our partners mistakes but accept them just the same, as a part of a whole that we care for. Sometimes .. well sometimes that doesn't happen.

To respond to this, we have to first define "perfectness". Not the literal definition of it, but the context of which we measure it. I don't see "perfect" as an absolute condition, but it is rather a relative term we use to define our comfort level when facing a particular situation. Would you call a person who always tidy up her room and keep it spotless as "perfect"? It depends on how much you value tidiness and what is your comfort level being in a tidy, spotless room, no? Would you call a shy person "perfect". Or would you rather have a talkative, loud one by your side?, Again, it depends on your perception of what you are comfortable with. Now, Do I look for perfection in choosing a partner. Yes. I want to be comfortable with my partner, so I go for the "perfect" one. Now, do I forget her mistakes? I never see anything as a mistake, unless it inflict injustice towards others. And when injustice is committed, I do not forget or forgo. However, if my partner's action/opinion is different/opposite to my perception and values, I will try to accept and celebrate the differences, rather than branding it as mistakes and try to change it or forget it. By the way, my partner is perfect :)

I hope my parter can be perfect,i have a fault,which is that if my parter has a fault i don't endure,i will be so angry,and consider that he is bad.But i also is a emotive person,many things i do are just following the feeling,though i know there are some faults my parter has,but i also fall in love.

My baby is not perfect nor is our relationship but we strive to be the best for each other all the time, yes we both have short comings but I do believe that if you want to have a real relationship you should learn how to love even the worst things about the person. Learning to accept their short commings and your faults also is the first step to changing for the better.

Humans are not perfect thus am not looking for a perfection nor would I want one. I will love the other person not because he is perfect but because he is not...

if i am in love .... for me he's already a perfect though in some aspects, i can see his imperfections......for me being true to yourself is more lovable than having pretensions...

I dont ever expect someone to be perfect. Sometimes, depending on what they are, flaws are good. If you are with someone you really love you can always say they are perfect, but that probably isnt the case, even if you like to think it is :) But you dont have to be perfect to be the best in someone else's eyes!

No... I never think that my partner is perfect.. cause I know it will hurt me whenever he commit mistakes. I just consider his weakness that could possibly drive him to have mistakes. But there times my blood pressure is going high when he did the mistake and taking for granted all opportunities to solve it, or just not thinking of something to make it right. But later I always felt pity and I want him to hug, because of his mistake... that's show's how I love him... I love the person who did everything but mistakes.