Is humour the key?

Humour perse may not do the trick, trust and honesty are the building blocks of a happy and healthy relationship.When a humour has to be applied, it should be calculated, by way of timing and intended results. Throwing in a humour in the middle of serious matters being discussed or raised with your spouce or fiancee could easily trivialize the issue! It may hurt feelings instead of creating the humour! Life has to take a serious dimension sometimes, spilling humour all the time can be offensive, so use humour only when the situatinon demands it like when the two of you are alone, chatting the day away! For the kids, yes, they will need humour all the time-so when you return home and you are rocking them about, throwing a humour in every sentence could keep them yearning for more and ofcourse, yearning for you most of the time!

Humour is important but I'm not sure it's the key, a relationship cannot survive on humour alone. Remembering funny things and having a laugh together may help to relieve stressful situations but love and trust are more important in maintaining a relationship I think.

Well I don't think it's so much the humor, but laughing at yourself and your partner if you feel that you are maybe having an argument over something so little it's ridiculous, so laughing it off is better than actually arguing. When you can laugh with each other it helps keep the relationship less serious and fun, I think.

ABSOLUTELY--------in the over 40 years together with my beloved husband, humor has kept us from killing each other several times. Okay, killing each other might be a bit of an exaggeration, but you know what I mean. As soon as we can began to laugh, the problems usually melt away. Thankfully my hubby has a real knack at picking up on one or two words and using them in a really funny way. Just a few days ago I was angry, upset and about to go ballistic, when hubby picked up on my saying 'over-whelmed', he fed that back to me in such a funny way I almost fell on the floor laughing. We have been teasing each other with that phrase for the past few days. Much better use of energy than getting mad.

I think humour play a good role in maintaining a good relationship together. And for me a relationship without humour is quite dull. Especially if you always fight. So humour is like a tigh breaker or a very needed time out. I have noticed couples who would start to fight. But would laugh on it and forget why they started to fight in the first place. (^^,)

Humour isn't always the key to surpassing all the arguments.. For me it is just scaping from the usual things of arguments. It becomes annoying when your in the peak of seriousness trying to solve stuffs then someone would create their abusive punchlines. Its so disgusting.. very much...

I don't think humour is the key to a successful relationship but it certainly helps. Sometimes it's good for defusing arguments as you said in your initial post but I also think it's just helpful generally in everyday life. I think a shared sense of humour is probably very important in many relationships and, like many women, I would always list "good sense of humour" or "someone that can make me laugh" as one of the qualities I look for in a man.

I think communication is the key to a good relationship. But to keep the argueing to a minimal, my husband and I play argue. Some times its hard for others to know if we are playing or really fighting. But it's just playing. We don't argue alot since we do this! It really helps.

Humour is important but I'm not sure it's the key, a relationship cannot survive on humour alone.

Absolutely, I think a sense of humour is crucial to any relationship. It's what attracted me to my husband in the first place. When we do have the odd occasional "difference of opinion" and especially if I'm not winning LOL, then i'll inject some humour into the situation, and vice versa. It certainly makes for an interesting discussion! lol.

I dont think humor is the key to a happy and properous relations. I think honesty is the most important factor to keep a happy and properous relationship.

There are many factors that make your relationship happy and humour is only one of the factors for a happy and prosperous relationship.Because both of the couple has no sense of humour then it would be boring and unexcitement relationship.There are many factors that can make the relationship happy and prosperous, such as being happy with each others company, compatible, trusting each other and many more.

Possible. We cannot deny the argument on partners. But what is the hard part is how couples cope with that argument. For me, based on personal experience humor one factor in saving the relationship. I used to be very serious in argument and I really argue when I think I am right. Then, suddenly argument hit up then my partner will tell my odd jokes then we're ok. That is why hot paper should have a partner with cool people. Co'z realized the balance.

humor helps me alot in my relationship.In my experience it helps us when we are just quareling about smallthings.when it is just about petty things.But when your talking about serious arguement and you are at the peak of your angry I think it will not help.Especially when you are trying to make a point and your partner could not get it.But afterwards when I'm not that hysterical ( hehe) we always end up our conversation with laughters :)

when having arguments, it's always better to talk things out with shouting at all. talk from that heart. let the other talk while one listens. it's a two way thing always. i think we all know how to insert jokes to lessen the discussion or lighten it a little. but it should be done with caution. or else, the other might think that you are making a joke out of the matter and not taking it seriously.

I dont think humour is the key to a happy relationship but it doesnt hurt thats for sure..For me the most important part of a relationship, the thing that will make it or break it IMO is communication and understanding...without those two things being solid I dont think a relationship can really stand the test of time and the trials of life etc...but humour is a good bonus factor ;-)

I think humour is definitely a part of a good relationship. Everything can't be stiff and boring all the time. I don't think my relationship relies on this, but it is a great part of my relationship. Humour does help relieve the tension when you are in a big argument. I think it could help save a relationship if the fight is extreme. It's not the only part that I'm utilizing right now.

Humour can definetly help your relationship. But don't count on it to solve your arguments. This might work a few times... but if it is always the same person making a joke to get out of the argument... time will come when the other person will get sick of it... and will not find it funny anymore. The key to a prosperous relationship is to not create arguments... but as this is impossible... try to solve them as quickly as possible. Don't try to punish each other with "an eye for an eye"... because in the long run... it will destroy your relationship. Tolerance is the key. You have to accept each other for who you really are... and you must not try to change each other. People change because they want to... not because someone wants them to.

I think it all depends on the personalities of two persons involved. It also depends on the kind of arguments you have. Certainly a little humor is better than nothing. I tend to laugh off with some friends when we are into a debacle. But its a friendly debate so we never take things too seriously.

I really think it is a useful tool in a successful relationship. If you can't laugh at yourselves, than who can you laugh at? my husband and I usually end up laughing when one is in a bad mood, the other will poke fun or do something to get the other to laugh. It's just something we do. Now I am not saying we don't ever fight, because that would be a lie. But we definitely have a healthy dose of laughter in our relationship & lives. We even sit back and laugh at our kids when all we want to do is knock them into tomorrow. I think laughing is probably the better option !!!