I wish I could have had one more child. Will I ever come to terms with this?

I'm only new to motherhood but i was thinking, could you use a surrogate mother? You'd have your eggs & your husbands semen used, you just wouldn't carry it yourself - which would mean no risk to yourself? I would possibly consider doing something like that if i found out a medical issue was stopping me from having any more children. What about adoption? I have heard it can be expensive but i'm really not sure on the costs involved. I hope you can come up with a way of having more kids - even if you don't carry the child yourself, then you'll be able to have your large family but without the risks. I wish you well & i'm sorry you cant have more kids yourself but you'll be able to find a way to make your family how you want it to be!

when I realize my age it makes me yearn for what I have not got and I get a little sad - then I try to reassure myself with the hope of grandchildren. I have had 7 conceived but only 3 survive into this world, I have never really "felt" my family to be complete.... God's Will be done.

I completely know where you are coming from. I wanted a third child but developed fibromyalgia (chronic pain, chronic fatigue) right after (or during) my second pregnancy. I was unable to return to work. We had just bought a house when I was 8 months pregnant. I wanted a third child regardless of my illness but my husband said I couldn't handle it physically. He got a vasectomy. He was probably right. We sure as heck couldn't afford it financially. I am 44 and my baby is 11 years old. I still pine for a child but I think a lot of women do that until they become grandmothers! LOL! Although I am healthier than I was 10 years ago, I still have this illness and have to pace myself. Having another child at any time over the last 10 years would not have been a good idea, even though I constantly wished my husband's vasectomy would grow back. So will the feeling ever go away? I suppose it depends on the person. Whether you find something to throw yourself into. My two children give me great pride and joy and I love watching them play soccer and basketball but I couldn't imagine having to chauffeur THREE kids around, much less pay for all this. We are lucky to have what we have and should be thankful and pray that no harm comes to them.