He's blaming me...
By Greyh22
@Greyh22 (110)
Philippines
April 14, 2007 8:47am CST
Two years ago had passed, I had a mutual understanding with someone. We were cool. Had great time and understood each other so well. But the time came when he needs to go. He needs to move to another place. We never got committed but when he got back here a week ago, he was blaming me. He said, I'm the reason why he had gone 2 years ago. He said, If I forced him not to go, He would not go.
I didn't know. He told me it was a family move away. I know I had no chance of winning his decision. Do you think it's my fault? pls be honest. No hard feelings.
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7 responses
@ChefMichael44444 (123)
• United States
14 Apr 07
He is blaming you because he feels guilty about leaving you for two years and he needs someone to blame. Tell him what has happened has happened and you could either start anew or go your seperate ways. I am sure you can get past this.
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@sallukhan420 (84)
• Pakistan
14 Apr 07
No,its not your fault.People usually have this nature to blame others and so he is also blaming you.It was his fault that he left you alone and now when he regrets,he is blaming you.Dont worry,just relax,it was his fault
@DesignDiva (379)
• United States
10 May 07
Well, unless you tied him up and shipped him off somewhere, I really don't see how you could have made him do anything. No one can make someone do something--short of physically forcing them to do something.
I think your friend needs to take responsibility for his decisions and actions. Yes, you may have had an influence, but he made the choices himself. Don't let him put all that guilt on you. You don't deserve it!
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@subathra (3519)
• India
14 Apr 07
I dont think that you are to be blamed for this because his family move which forced him to move and not you.i dont understand why is he blaming you as sometimes we are committed to go far off from our loved ones which is unavoidable.Anyway he is back now so sort out the issues and dont stretch this problem further friend.
@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
I don't think the whole blame should be put on you alone. It was a mutual decision I think. And it was him who is leaving. So I don't think it's your fault. And by the way, if he really wanted to conserve your relationship. He should have fight for it and disagree with the break up. So don't blame yourself Grey. Have a nice day! (^^,)
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@tarachand (3895)
• India
14 Apr 07
Well this is something that you will have to decide for yourself, I don't think that the amount of information that you have provided is enough, and even if you did provide as much information as was possible, it would still be one-sided, we'd have to hear his point of view too, and it'd still be hard to determine.
I think you need to think over things deeply, from both points of view, his as well as yours and then decide if he's right or not.
All the best to you!
