What games do you play?
By braided
@braided (698)
Canada
April 14, 2007 10:57am CST
By this I mean ... In a relationship men and women seem to play games or it appears that way ... Are you honest and real with the person of your affections or was there a game in the beginning when you met ... that courtship back and forth tension between the two of you to hook the other person?
I just find if you are real and tell the truth people run for the hills ... if you say yes men will run ... if you say no ..they will chase you til you get tired ... Why do we have to play this silly game?
What games did you play ... or did you even participate?
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@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Well... "that was then, and this is now."
What I mean is, back when I was young and foolish... actually, make that "young, and had lousy self-esteem"... I used to wear more of a facade, in the false belief that "merely being ME" was not good enough to make anyone be interested in me. Somehow, I had to be "more." However, I never played the "no means yes" games some people seem driven by. I was more stuck in a pattern of thinking that if someone was "nice" to me... I'd better treat that as "love," because who knew if anyone would EVER be nice to me again.
20 years and MUCH therapy, introspection and self-inquiry later... I come "as is." I am just myself. I feel comfortable BEING myself because I realize (and accept) that I am NOT going to be "popular" nor the "right person" for everyone out there. In fact, I am aware of the fact that 95% of the population might think me "strange" or "weird," and I recognize that my life task is to connect with and befriend the remaining 5%, rather than cry in my soup and feel insecure because the 95% aren't falling over backwards to meet me. I strive for what I like to call "transparency" in friendships and relationships... which, of course, means that a lot of people "run for the hills," as you say. And that's OK. The people who run for the hills evidently aren't the ones I'm looking for.
Some would argue this is an incredibly self-absorbed and self-important attitude... but I actually feel like I finally have a REALISTIC grip on the way I can form healthy friendships and relationships.
@braided (698)
• Canada
17 Apr 07
absolutely the way i feel these days .... I just try to be me and if they dont like me well, good ... because they werent for me anyway ... i would rather have someone that likes who i am so why not be real in the first place ... i'm not trying to be the person they are looking for because then i'm not being myself and i dont want someone to be other than who they are cause if they are i may make a mistake and think they are the right person when in actual fact they are someone else trying to be someone else ... smiling ..
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@satpalsingh88 (14)
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14 Apr 07
i play basket ball because it is fastest game in the world and i like to play fastest thing to utilise my memories in taking the decisons very fastky.its too good than others.