Do you think wives or mothers should be given an allowance?

I think so. The way my husband and I work it, I get to keep any money I make through various online activities, and he gives me a little extra cash now and then when he has it. When I used to work at a regular job, I got an allowance each time I got a paycheck. I think this is a good idea when the husband controlls the household finances because this way the wife can buy things for herself without having to first get the husband's approval, and it also makes it easier to buy gifts and surprises for her husband without him knowing in advance.

I think so too so that they could have time to themselves and pamper themselves from time to time and buy the things that they like. Being a full-time mother or housewife is the hardest job in the world and one that should be appreciated. As for me, I pay my mother for taking care of my child when her nanny eloped. Most of us just let our parents take of our kids and not give them anything. I really commit that I will give them a sort of 'payment' for doing those things for me because it is just not easy. The husband should put in extra money to the money that he gives to his wife so that the wife could buy other things in the house or for oneself.

At one time I was a stay at home mom and my hubby had a pretty nice job so he would give me some money to spend til next payday. I do church rummages sales and stuff and I got that money to go pretty far and provide things we needed too. So it worked well. Now that the kids are old and I work nights part time I have my own money and help out with car repairs etc. It is good for the woman to have some pocket money of her own although she has access to the check book in the same situation.

I believe we should all have a bit of money to do with as we wish . A stay at home mother does a lot of work and it often goes unappreciated . One who goes to work everyday comes home to relax whereas a stay at home mom never gets a chance to go home and relax , her job is all day , every day , seven days a week . She never has a day off and she is always there to make sure everyone else is happy . This is a lot for one to do , but often a stay at home mom will not complain because so many look at this as not doing anything or the woman just being too lazy to get a regualr job . It is hard to stay home everyday and not get out of the house once in awhile . It is one of the hardest jobs one will undertake where the pay is very little and the hours are long . The rewards are knowing that you make everyone else happy but take little time for yourself . I believe all stay at home moms deserve the same respect as anyone else and deserve to have some money of their own :)

I went from working full time, and renting my own apartment to being married with 3 stepsons living with us. I stayed home to raise our own daughter, and once my employment insurance ran out, I didn't have any money of my own. For me, it was a difficult situation, as I'd been used to managing my own finances etc. for years. I loved my (late) husband, but didn't always feel that he understood my need to have some money of my own. I think this is very important for a stay at home mom, so that she can feel like she's capable of making some purchases etc. on her own, for the household, and herself, without having to ask her husband each time. My husband used to take me out to dinner etc., and buy me things, but it still wasn't the same as having a bit of my own money.

My mother does get allowance, previously from my dad. Now she gets allowance from us, her children. I feel it is only right that we give her allowance now that we are working. Instead of just keeping the allowance for herself, she spends it on providing for the family, ensuring that we do not go hungry and that we are well-fed. Since mothers or full time housewives really work hard for the family, she should be paid an allowance where she can spend on herself. I am sure she would have her own free hours too :P

This is a sore subject for me also. I used to work and have a career. So, making my own money and helping pay for bills and groceries was something I was used to doing. But since moving to Oklahoma and deciding to be a stay home mom for a while, it has been tough. I don't want to spend the money HE earns and I know he now pays all the bills. I have mentioned to him that I think I should get an allowance also because the kids get an allowance for their chores. But then he tells me that if I want a book or something, I don't have to have allowance to get it...I just have to let him know and I can use the bank card. This is still hard because I know he pays all the bills and I am not. But then when I wanted to buy a book once, he told me that I would have to wait and that I had plenty of books at home. Grrrr What's the point of saying I can get a book when I want and then tell me no???

I agree 100 percent on getting money from my husband. As it is i have to ask him for money when ever i need anything for myself or the children. I am a stay at home mom and work my butt off. I not only make sure that the house is clean, the laundry done, the kids brought up right, and dinner on the table, i make sure that the house is running smothly. I have four children and one on the way so i get stuck doing laundry at least 4 or 5 loads a day just to try to keep up. If i miss a day i'm in trouble with it. Dishes are another thing that i have to keep up with. I work as hard if not harder then my husband because i get up at 6am and work until 10:30 pm and by this time i still have a lot to do an i'm just plain to tired to do it. Oh my youngest son is only 7 months old so if he get's up in the middle of the night i'm the one that takes car of him so that my husband can sleep. I work on mylot just to get a little extra money and i wish that they paid more for one day because I don't make payout every month like i wish. I have to ask him and get the approvel befor i buy it. It's hard being a stay at home mom.

yes of course mothers should be given allowance. I got to stay home for more than two months and our money is very limited because most of it went to milk and diapers and baby's medicine..so it was really hard for me to do those household chores without money like if i want to buy something for my kids or for myself..even if they are just in home most of the time money is also needed like when going to the parlor or to the spa for a bit of relaxation...and i myself im saving money without my husband's knowledge.

I think that everyone deserves to have a little spending money for themselves. I always worked, so I had money for myself, but those who stay at home to take care of the house and the children deserve to have some money for themselves too.

I agree with her! I am a housewife. Sometimes I do work. When I do, my husband allows me to keep the money. He also gives me a weekly allowance. He also, cleans, does laundry and helps out in other ways. I appreciate it, and I deserve it! He is also 16 years younger than I am, and a real looker.

You are very cheap in telling of giving an allowance why did not think of a big gift for them, they are doing a marvelous work at home mending things, keeping children and a lot kitchen cores.

It all depends on how much money your Dad earns. Sometimes when you pay all your bills, you are left with almost nothing. I agree with her that housewifes are ladies who devote all their lives to their families. Working at home is hard work too. If your dad has plenty of money, he should give her an allowance because she is also a human being with needs.

I do believe all mothers/wives should have some money of their own to spend as they wish. I am a stay at home mother, but I am in charge of the finances, and if I need/want something that is reasonable, I get it. If my husband wants something he just asks and I let him know if it's okay or not depending on the price and how much extra money we have at the time. I don't think i'd like it being called an allowance though, that's what my 7 year old gets ;)

As a stay at home mom i would fell degrated by being given an allowance. I have always been able to spend what I wanted no questions ask ( as long as we have it lol). My husband understand that if it was not for being a stay at home mom that he would not beable to work they why he does and get the promation that he has gotten.

well i actually handle the finances myself, so i know when we have money to spend, which is hardly but if we do i'd rather buy for my kids then myself. but i think we housewives deserve to be pampered once in a while.

Yes, I do think that us stay at home mom's and housewives should be given some kind of an allowance. We work hard and really don't get any kind of free time of our own to speak of. Don't get me wrong I love staying home with my children and taking care of the household, but there is never a break from it. I am always here, I never get to leave and everyone is dependent on me for their needs and wants. It is a full time job in itself. Most people just don't seem to get this. This doesn't seem to be so in your case, but it is the general consensus for most. :) I agree wholeheartedly that we should be given some kind of money to be used on ourselves or for what we want. I would love to have a few dollars to just pamper myself with. Say $10 for a haircut would be heavenly! lol Thanks for the great discussion!