my life is full of stress

Is knocking? well... don't open the door!... ehi... a "smile"! :-)

My dear annihilus, this "beggar" is knocking at my door! lol.

got your point! Thanks

oh it's so sweet of you to offer me such a wonderful words and kind advices and to be honest you really lifted my spirit and hope. After all that I read here, I beginning to see myself for who I am. Now I think I will try out all the advices my friends in mylot have given me. It surprised me sometimes how I can tolerate all these treatment for years from my husband. I thank God for the gift of patient and wisdom that He has given me. without him, I just dont know how I can go through with all the mess I am in. Nevertheless, I believe every bad things will come to an end and good things will come soon. Thank you Mamasan34.

Thank you Bindishah. A month ago, we went back to my husband's hometown to attend to some family matter. Only the two of us, we left the children with my mother. After 4 days we did rekindled some romance but it was shortlived. Back home, everything start to go back to it normal state. I did come to a point where divorce is the only solution. But I thought about my children and I dont believe in starting all over. I have been with him for 13 years and our religion forbid divorce. It is just that sometimes when thing gets too unbearable, I need someone to talk to and luckily I found mylot' community. I guess I just have to bear whatever it is coming. Beside, lately, I have found something interesting to do so it make me forget the bad feelings.

I guess you should start with that because once you're confident with yourself I think you can do a much better job and really feel good about yourself.. I feel there's really something wrong with your husband if he fails to notice the things you do and the effort you put into it. How about now? Does he have a work? I can really see how stress you are with all the work, I think he should ask himself if he's a better person. If he keep on saying those things to your son then what makes him? I even think that he should also do something about this because as husband and father, he has his share of obligations with you. If he say that to you again when you make yourself look pretty then tell him that what he's thinking is wrong. Tell him you did that for yourself, to gain respect. By the way, 13 years is a bit long.. Planning to go through a divorce is quite hard I think, I've seen some situations but I don't think it could help the children. It would break your bind of being together but would probably affect the children. Just give in a little time for yourself everyday to take out those stress.. I'm saying this as a friend and all these are just advice that I thought might help you in any way.. Take care of yourself..

I am very happy today because with your comments, I finally confirm my suspicion on my husband's behaviour. I have confided my problems to my family/friends and they also say that there is something not right with my husband. My family also told me to look after myself and children and that I should ignore him if start an arguement. I can be patient sometimes but sometimes I just "explode" in anger. Anyway, I really appreciate your advise. All along I thought I was the one who have problems (maybe I have a little bit - anger), but now I am really glad that not only my family but a friend from mylot who has given me a wake up call! Thank you.

Hi there, so sorry for the late reply.. I was really busy and couldn't keep track of things.. =) I do hope you're feeling great now, so how are you doing? are things getting better? I'm glad that you have shared to problem to your family and friends, that way they can help you out with this problem because honestly if I'm in your situation I couldn't really handle it on my own.. I would probably be crying and crying.. hehe They are right, focus on things that really mattered to you.. You could ignore him by listening and not saying anything, sometimes we tend to think wildly which would heat up things (this would be based on my experience as well). But even if I'm just in a relationship, I always tell my boyfriend that if ever we argue we must talk things over in a soft way so that it would end right then and there and that we would be able to see out mistakes because I'm the type who really wants to explain my side of the story as well as listened to what he feels, I guess this would be fair for both side. I'm glad you appreciated my advise, I glad to have help you since it would really make me feel great helping other people.. Even I have my problems, facing them would be something challenging but that's how we can resolve it as well. I truly am happy for you, best of look and stay pretty and gorgeous! hehe =)