I am way behind on my friends discussions.

I don't have my alerts on, but I check my friends discussions every day under "discussions my friends started". I often check there several times a day. There are discussions that I just can't answer no matter how hard I try. So, I don't answer them all, nor do I expect them to do so with mine. I don't think everyone expects that you answer all of your friend's posts. I like to give responses only to those discussions that I can give a good answer to. So, I would just post to the ones I like and go on from there.

Tell me about it lol..I have over 300 on my list and more coming to request friendship every time..I was going to post a discussion on a plan I am devising..I am trying to work out a formula..but I haven't worked it out as yet. I will keep you posted on it as soon as I have found the best way around this. It has been bugging me too..and with three screaming kids around can't concentrate and use my grey matter to its ful capacity lol.

I was like you and had them all on , but I was actually making myself ill every time I logged on to My email account , I have enough hassle in my every day life so I switched them off , I go into discussions my friends have started , and when one of my friends answer me who I have sen for a while I go to their profile and try to catch up with the ones I have missed , I have about 300 friends now and I know there is no way I am getting to them all , Just delete the ones you have and go through ( discussions my friends have started ) and do the catch up thing when you See them , please don't get yourself upset , we like you and don't want to loose you , I think most of us here are exactly the same pal xxxx

Ok, Stepfeny I understand get on your job! LOL. it does take along time to catch up. you have over 5,000 what I couldn't do all those. I half over the months.

I do get behind, but I don't respond to EVERY post.

I really don't have that problem yet I have 27 friends and all the alerts is turned on and I also go to see what is new in my interest that I can respond to if I seem slow have not been getting much sleep so I respond when I can in between times to people on my friends list and everywhere else.

don't worry stephcjh. your friends here in myLot will understand if you can't reply to all our responses or respond to all our discussions. you don't have super powers to do so nor you have magic spells to do it all at once. we're friends and that's why we understand each other. so, just take your time and slow down. take care and hope to see you more around.

I don't have my alert turned on but I check the "discussions my friends have started" at least once every day. I don't know how people can possibly keep up when they have hundreds of friends. I don't have that many and I still struggle sometimes. That's mainly why if I receive a friends request from someone who does have hundreds of friends I usually deny it. I just don't really see the point.

I would turn off my friends discussion for awhile then when you get caught up you can turn them back on. Its just a suggestion. I hope you can caught up soon. Good luck to you. You will catch up!

not really the same situation like u. actually i have not subscribed for mails when my friends start a discussion. so i'm not notified. although i everyday visit discussions started by friends and try to answer the discussions that really attracts me. nioot all.

i woulnd't worry too much. people know that you can't answer everone's discussions every time. i have a hard time keeping up as well and sometimes i just don't have an opinion on my friend's discussion so there is nothing i can do about that. i'm sure people appreciate as much as you can handle. don't try to respond to every single one if you don't have time. good luck

Don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure your friends here really appreciate the fact that your intentions are to respond to their discussions as much as possible, but you are only one person. I go through my friends's post on a daily basis and I do the best I can to answer as many as I can. I'm thankful to have so many friends here and I'm happy that they do the same for me too.

I don't have that many friends on here but the first I do when I log in, after checking my earnings, is check on the new discussion my friends started and try to respond to as many as I can. I know that I might not get to all of them and that is ok. I don't think your friends will feel ignored if you don't always respond to their posts. 5000 discussions is a lot of posts. It will take you some time to go through that.

Patience is the only way to come out of it, second thing is interest to response to your friends, have patience and reply back to your friends

I don´t think anybody here expects you to answer every single discussion your friends start. Some people (like you) have got a lot of friends and it would be a neverending task to answer them all. You don´t have to answer them all in one day. Just use the feature "discussions my friends started" and choose the discussions you can relate too. These are just a few suggestions. Don´t forget, mylot should be fun, not stress. You are a very good friend, because you answer your friends posts. Some people never respond to a single one.

no I am not finding that problem, I do have the highest speed internet and so many that helps. I don't think I would ever go through 5000 discussions that is just crazy. Pick and choose each day what you want to respond too. I think that is the only way you will ever catch up.

I do know what you mean. I have all mine on as well and I will get a ton of them in spurts. I can't answer them all and I don't try to. What I do is go through them first, giving them a quick skim to see if it's something I could post to, if I can't I delete it right then. Then when I have the number down to a managable amount I then go through and post to them as I can. The site itself isn't too slow for me but I'm on a cable connection so that could be why. I don't know what your connection is but that could be part of the problem. Could also be your temp. internet files need to be cleaned out and your other temporary files or even a defrag. If all those haven't been done in a while the computer can be slow and make the sites take longer to load. Just something for you to check to help with the speed.

I don't know about you, but I don't think being a mylot friend means you will have to respond to every single topic your friends started. I myself have never done this and I never turn on my notification either. Every day I only have 1 few hrs to browse mylot and I start with discussions my friends started, then either new discussions or discussions without response. I think it's my prerogative to decide which discussion I respond to, just like I can not force my friends to respond to my discussions just because they are on my friends list. My friends so far here have been helpful and I always reply their pms being as helpful as I can. Mylot used to be slow for me, but not anymore. Good luck, I hope you can catch up.

dont worry i have the same problem but mine is because of stress and other things going on in my life the last 2 weeks. But now that i have learned i have 6 weeks left on my job before they get rid of the rest of us and clean house i now have to work a little harder here, im trying to compile a list of good sites that pay, and work harder on cha cha since i will need extra money to get by.Even if its enough for spending money that will be good :)

Hi stephcjh. I suffer from the same thing you are going through and I have been active here for only a short while. I have started adding friends recently and found out to my horror I simply cannot answer to all their posts. I do wanted to answer to at least one post from one friend daily but my server is terribly slow so is my comp. Thanks Steph for this post and to all my friends I take you all seriously and I'll catch up somehow ...Have a great day!