He decided to talk to someone!
By foxyfire33
@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
April 15, 2007 10:34am CST
Some of you might remember me mentioning all the problems with my s/o. Well lately there have been problems at his job that have put a lot more stress on him. Last night he told me that when he goes in to work tomorrow morning he's going to stop and talk to the "plant shrink" as he put it. He has anger management problems and he says he feels like he's really about to "lose it". I'm so excited for him. I haven't said anything to him lately about seeking help or anything. If anything I've just been overly passive for the past several weeks. He's decided all on his own to talk to someone and get help!
Now that he's going to do this all on his own, I have a question for all of you....Should I mention or suggest any "topics" to him to discuss or just leave him alone to sort things out? I definitely don't want to get pushy now that he's finally realizing he needs help but I also don't want some things to be ignored because he doesn't see the connection yet. Should I "prompt" him a little or just continue to be patient?
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@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
15 Apr 07
Iwould leave it up to him. Personally as someone who's sought out and talked with a therapist I got very upset when my family would ask me "Oh what did you talk about" or "I think you should ask them about..." He more then anyone probably knows what areas he needs help with. He'll know what to discuss with him and the doctor will know what area's he's skipping by and what to draw out of him. Most if they are any good do.
Now if he's placed on medication and you see it effecting him negatively then yes you should mention something. Tell him to check with the doctor on it. That I'd suggest with anyone who has loved ones on any medication. Otherwise though I would suggest letting him handle it. You don't want to cause him not to want to go after all.
@WeenitsMom (492)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I'm so happy for the two of you! No, I wouldn't mentionit to him other than to let him know that you are there for him and that you will support him. Blessing to both of you!
@songbirdnaimh (1422)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I would wait it out as well....it he starts to heat up at home...then maybe I'd mention something, after he's calmed down. I'm happy he's getting some help!
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Foxy--I am so happy that your s/o decided to seek help....that is the hardest part. I realize that you are trying to be helpful ....but be careful...you do not want to spook him...let him get into the sessions with the "plant shrink". Assure him that you are here if he wants someone else to talk to...let him know that you are proud of him for taking this big step and that you are supportive.
He has come to the realization that he needs "help coping" and the therapist is trained to help him "pull out the dominant issues"......you do not want to appear overzelous as that will not work in your favor.
This is a tremendous step for him and for the entire family...you may all end up in family therapy...which would not hurt anything either.....Be patient, my friend, there are sunny days ahead.......
As always, I wish only the best for you and your family...you are in my prayers!
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
16 Apr 07
It happened so suddenly, I think I was a little shocked by it but am also so very happy. Tonight when he got home, he seemed so calm. He talked about his day and all the problems but didn't get all agitated like he usually does. It's like just knowing what he'll be doing tomorrow has taken a huge weight off his shoulders.
We did couples therapy before but he wasn't committed then so if it's decided that we should start it again I'll be all for it. I think it would be good for us now that he can see that he does have a few issues to work on.
Thanks for the prayers, they mean a lot to me. It can take awhile some times but I know they all get answered eventually!
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