Love sacrifices....

Nice lesson and one worth remembering.I don't know which one of these two describes me best.Yes,some sacrifices are the ultimate.The lovers burns themselves out to keep the flame of love burning , but the sacrifices seem to have gone in vain.Perhaps they aren't all in vain if the person who is loved realises how much they were loved.There is no perfect answer to love.One has to keep learning and find his own definition of love.

I am neither. I beleive true love is more on giving and sharing and not in making or asking senseless sacrifices. Inorder for one to love, one must love oneself first. For how could one really know how to love when it doesn't even know how to love itself first? If the SELF that you offer to the one that you love is an unloved self, then you don't really love that person or someone because you are giving him/her less of your self. What the butterfly felt maybe is more of an obssession which is destructive in nature and the rose is not also not really in love for it is conditional. Yes, I agree with you that one should set boundaries as far as sacrifices is concerned.

I am the Butterfly that is why I wasted 21 years of my Life before I realized that my Ex Husband was never going to adjust to Marriage, never going to stop mentally abusing me and stop being selfish Now I am the Butterfly again but so is my lovely Man

Honestly, I'm none of both. I'm not a very romantic person. Hehe. But what strikes me is that you're right about the butterfly and the white rose. I have seen a lot of either type in different people (especially among my friends). I have one friend who sacrificed everything for another friend of mine who obviously didn't really appreciate everything that he had done for her. I advised him to give her up (I also told her to stop using him), but he wouldn't, until the time that he had his heart broken for the final time when she married someone else. Later on, this girl (who's not my friend anymore because of what she had done to my other friend) got heartbroken with the guy she married, and she wanted my friend back. By that time, it was too late. He already entered priesthood.

I love this story. I am definitely the butterfly type. I will give a person that i love alone. but i would never sacrifice myself so he would be happy. I know it is very romantic and beautiful as a story. but not in real life. I did have one relationship that was not so easy, and i found that i sacrificed too much for this person and his love, and nothing was enough for him. not because he did not love me, but because his character was like that. He was never satisfied with what he had. and always said he needs more to be more. in some stage, i looked at my life and so that i compromised too much for this love, and that i am losing myself, and that was the stage that i broke up this relationship.

I don't know, my friend. I am probably the soil, still waiting for a flower to blossom on my ground. I am a single and a lonely soul here. Any takers? :P

As you can see by my avatar pal , I am the butterfly but I have been lucky and have been married to another butterfly for almost 46 years , any love I have given to him and ay of my family has come back to me and more , I am a very lucky woman I have a lot of love in my life . and thank you so much for the lovely message I just this moment found it xxxx

hi,aphroditei. where till i remember your name comes from goddess of love and mother of cupid.......... am i right........ really nice name because even i am a love struck person who believes in this feeling blind foldidly.the story was really touchy and i am proud to be a butterfly and living a fulfilling life with my rose(touchwood).love as a whole process of finding,accepting,nurturing it is easy who are loving and forgiving and tough for those who are fickle until they come upto that situation.even i had shed some drops to keep it going.but what i got ,i didn't regret for doing it.i also believe that after realisation every rose also turns to become a butterfly which makes whole relation like a heaven on earth.

This is so true... most of the time we are not content with the kind of love that one has to offer, it is often too late when we realize that the love we've taken for granted will soon be gone. I thought that I could sacrifice everyhting for love but I was wrong, or maybe, I just realized what I really deserve. The one I love loves another and claims that he loves me too, but how can you say that you love someone but at the same time hurt her? In the end it's all about pursuing you happiness... giving yourself what is really due to you, not allowing anyone to hurt you, or dictate your destiny... I have nothing against the butterflies or the roses, as long as they are happy with the choices they made, then they will never go wrong.

OMG what a wonderful story. I think I have in different stages of my life been both. I learned my lesson quite a few times, or rather enough times, to strike a balance I guess. Thank you this was so lovely and so true

I'd have to say I'm the butterfly, but only droplets would be spilled, so as to sustain us both. :) ps. sutan provided the butterflies. ~:o

ya .it is good to realize from true heart because the true love is that is feels only from the deep heart and soul.on hearing this type of story,my heart will fall down instantaneosly without any reason.because in true love there is god and where there is god who any one will be left from any real fealing.there is lots of love story exits in the histoty but the true one is only few one..this is also be considered as one of the true love story because it is very difficult to giveup your life in love as compared to take thwe other life in the revenge of the love.love is the true feeling that never be defined by any kind of words or phrase..it is to be realize only by yourself.here ,butterfly did the marvelous job in its love..because its don't want to giveup its own life in love ..through this it only tell other is that you never want that you lover be in any problem or has any difficulties in life.white rose want to be a red rose this is its real wish in life and the butterfly only fulfill its wish as it love rose.so without thinking yourself fullfillthe willingness of those to whom love the most and most...this is real kind of love story..thanks

I think i'm a butterfly, who sacrifices all for love. when i fall in love, i fall very deep, that's why i'm willing to do and sacrifice everything for that person i love..

there is a parallel verse from the many poems written by rabindrath tagore, a nobel awardee for literature and a philoshopher (only to his friend gandhi), which goes this way: be like a rose that perfumes the hand that crushes it...

I'm sort of a "pink" in between rose! LOL I learned not to sacrifice completely in the name of love, but also to be willing to give easily enough. I think I'm a tad cautious when it comes to matters of the heart.

thanx for sharing a touching story. i am bit perplexed as to what i am. i think i am bit of both and sometimes none of those. there are a few conditions: 1. the white rose knows about the sacrifice of the butterfly: this is appreciable and desirable but the white rose ould die now that she knows how much the butterfly used to love her. 2. the rose doesn't know about the sacrifice: this is sad and all the good work goes in vain. i would always prefer the first one to the second and better still, if i love and give everything, except life, and get it reciprocated. that would be ideal. however, being a very introvert person, i hardly express my feelings and it takes ages to actually confide in someone. so, quite obviously most of my love goes away untold, unsettled and unheard of. trying to change myself though. LOL...

To be the butterfly, it seems a little stupid. But it is a example for us. It tells us that we should learn to sacrifice to the one we love and cherish the sacrifice the one do for us when we fall in love.

I am certainly not a rose. I will never ask a buttefly to cut itself to make me red. I am also not a butterfly. I will not take my life just to fulfill a foolish desire of the rose. Love unites. Love binds. Love makes you strong. It does not ask you to sacrifice. If it does it is not love.

I am a butterfly that will do all things and sacrifice all things just to be loved by someone in return. I enjoy the feeling that i am in love but it hurts me when i am not loved by someone in return. I just want to be loved just like the butterfly in the story so i will do everything just to love me in return.

i think i am both, a butterfly to the person i love and a rose to someone who loves me. i love dearly, i still set limitations but i give more than what i receive. while sometimes i am a rose who doesn't see some people's real value until they're gone. and i learned that it's not supposed to be in one-way, you shall give and receive, coz it wouldn't be fair to yourself when you give but don't receive anything, yet you still give more. and it is also unfair when someone loves you, but you don't even realize his worth. things should be balance, we must learn to realize the value of each things, don't give too much, too much is bad.