Should keeping a child from what he loves be used as a punishment??

My children hate time-outs. It keeps them from the avtivities they love do to do the most. But, for my children it has worked very well since they were about 2 and my oldest is 10. They also hate to receive bad marks. I have had to hide some things that get them into trouble consistantly, but I don't mind doing that. It removes the temptation and creates less of a fight. Hopefully this advice helps you greatly.

Achild has to learn for every action ther is a re-action so if it mean not allowing him to particapte in something he loves then it should be a punishment that will only effect them if they are on a sports team and they love it then punishing the child for some thing by not allowing them to play the sport punishes not only the child but all the othe rkids adn parent who made the efort to get their kids to the game. I agree with a couple of the previous posters like coloring on the wall taking away crayons and things like that but it should only effect the child and they should have to help clean up the mess they make.

giving advise on a forum like this is really difficult. We do not know the child. we are not being told how old the child is or what he has done. All these things should be taken into consideration as to how a punishment wiil help child. With that said I believe in phyical punishment for a child for some things and only up until a certain age. there come an age that you should be able to reason with a child. you have figure out what will be the best dicipline for you child because only you know your child.

When my son was small he lived for football. He is now 30 and still plays. One day when he was about 9yrs, he and a friend set a field on fire. Fortunately they were not hurt, but they had me running around frantically calling them amongst all the smoke and flames. I sent his friend home and stopped my sons football (I can't remember for how long). He never played with a fire again. PS. The fire was so bad I called the fire department, but did not tell them it was my son.lol

Discipline is a tricky area. I believe that you should make the punishment fit the crime. For example, if your child is scribbling on the wall after you told him not to, you should take away his crayons and not let him use them for a day or two. If he won´t eat his dinner because he hates broccoli, refuse dessert. But you also need to make it clear what your expectations are and stick to them. If you tell your daughter that you will take away her doll if she continues to hit her brother with it, then you need to actually do it, or she won´t respect anything you say.

I'm pretty old fashioned and still believe in swatting the bottom. That doesn't always work, however. Different kids require different kinds of discipline. First of all, set punishments before the behavior occurs, e.g., "If you do this, then this will happen." That way you are not punishing out of anger. Yes depriving a child of something they really like to do can be very effective. Just don't overdo it. I have a friend of mine that took her teenaged daughter off the computer for a month...I think that is too long, even for a pretty serious infraction. Don't forget to praise at least three times as often as you punish! Good luck and God bless.

It all depends on what the degree of this love is. If a child is obsessed with something to the point that it obstructs him/her from doing other worthwhile things like studying, school homework, reading and house chores then keeping him away from these things is more of a corrective measure than a punishment. He should be counselled to understand that that he stands to gain y keeping away from such things.

According to me, in punishing -hitting and keeping them away from their likes "BOTH" are equally important and as useful as oxygen to living beings..!! This is truth children "DO" needs some physical punishment sometimes ..view it as a training course in a defense academy. lol!! Well they do need some physical tolerance in this world to survive..belive it or not..!! But on the other hand keeping them away from their likings is also a better option to make them do what you want.This can be done anytime ,but physical is something not meant for every time.But sure when needed!!

yes! that should be a perfect punishment- the child would immidietly understand he has done something wrong which could have been avoided. sometimes the child does not understand that he was wrong because children around him keep doing the same thing and it is not treated as a mistake. so when you tell him that he has wronged he is in rage and is not in a condition to listen to anyone! the best method is to ground him with a book and make him come out of the rage. then make him miss his favorite thing.... it works wonders!

Yes.My parents always did so and it really works.It's really a good way to punish a child who doesn't listen to his parents.

Yes.My parents always did so and it really works.It's really a good way to punish a child who doesn't listen to his parents.

honestly i think it is wrong to beat your children but a good spankin is nt beating them. i think you should first let them know what they did is wrong if they already know then you tell them its wrong and they must be punished if it isnt that bad then ground them and yes take away things they like like tv or video game but let them know it is because what they did was wrong so they must be punish and tell them how long and if they appologize be thankful to them but dont just give their stuff back because then theyll think oh if i suck up i wont be introuble. if it really bad give them a spankin on their but hard enough for it to hurt but let them know why first and tell them to sit and think about it afterward. when you think they had enough time then have a one on one conversation and let them know you dont like punishing them or spanking them but that they must behave and listen to you because you are the parent and they are the child and that if they simply just listen the you wouldnt have to punish them. It worked for me and my brother and it work for my little cuzinz. you should try it might work. even if that isnt the way you do it you must find some punishement for them or theyll walk all over you!

I believe spanking has been effective in raising my three kids, at least until they reach age 5 or 6, which is when they develop the ability to reason. Then the punishments go more along the line of 'if you don't behave, this will be your punishment', and usually it's something like no computer time, no TV time, or in an extreme case, no class field trip.

Well... I think, it's better you use slap if the kid had done something REALLY bad. So he knew which one is the highest risk in life. I mean, like example. Do not play with fire to a 6 years old kid, and when he played with fire, you ought to stop him, then told him to never do it again while telling why it's dangerous. If he played with fire, and cause fire in your house (big or small), you have the right to slap him at his butt. Because that's already fatal. for some kids, you can give some punishment like 'no pocket money for a week' or 'no going out with your friends or playing with your friends for 3 days' etc depend on the kids wants. but sometime, give punishments that is also for learning to take responsiblity for everything/mistake he had done.

Absolutely not. If the child's sensitive, he/she might develop a sort of aversion. Their parents wouldn't be treated as parents, in future. I've seen many cases like this. Proper punishment is making the child see what his mistake did. Hitting, to some extent, is unavoidable. But, if their parents develop a habit, it'd turn out to be more than damaging.

I always gave time-outs up to an hour. My child hated those and she usually turned her behavior around. Keeping them from something they love depends on the situation. If she 'forgot' for the umteenth time to change the birdcage paper is not cause for her to miss a school outing, but missing an episode of her favorite show IS.

Yes it is not allowed in my country to punish a child physically. I would punish my child by taking away something that he wanted and tell the child that not unless they behave themselves that they are not going to get it back until they learn to behave themselves.

ya i think it may works.

erm.. i don't think that as a good solution... why keeping them from what they love? to make them obey to you? then.. i think they actually obey to you because they know by obeying to you.. they will be able to get back what they want.. it shows that they do not understand their mistakes and tend to repeat it again.. am i right? :)

it all depends on the child their age and how mature they are I work with 1 year olds and it's hard to make them understand what's wrong to do and what's right since they can't talk (communicate at all) we teach them to tell us what is brothering them and if they do something wrong we teach them "nice" when they hit and have them sit on our when they do something wrong if they are throwing a tanturm don't pay them any mind what they want is attention you give them it your telling them "yes do that when you want me to do something for you" and you don't want to do that when it comes to older kids such as 3 -4 years of age time out is good a min for each year of age it's hard to keep up but if you don't maintain a routin they are not going to catch on and you'll never get thru to them patience patience trust me it will work let me know how it goes good luck to you Fenix