My 5 year old has really started back talking...what do you recommend?

My daughter started telline me no when I asked her to pick up her toys until one day I took a garbage bag and cleaned them up for her. I then put the garbage bag in the garage and slowly she earned her toys back. She really didnt want me to get rid of them.

My son is also 5 and has started the lets make a deal, . . . "I'll do ------ If you give me some ------" . It never works for him, I just tell him, he's not the one that's makes the deals in this house and you will do what I ask. He still tries though, and now I'm watching a little girl who is almost 5, and she does the same thing, so it's just a phase, and they all must go through it. Take it one day at a time, you never know this phase may be better than the next they start to go through...

lmao! You sound just like me, but I have 3 of them to deal with. They all have went through this stage or are going through it. I am a no non-sense mom so I don't make deals. Period. My kids know this, but they still try anyways. My oldest son has said some pretty hurtful things to me also, and has also given me a black eye a couple of times. To his credit, he is diagnosed with bipolar and adhd also. So sometimes the little arguments over toys get to seem like the lesser battle. My only way of curbing these tendencies with my children was to just never start. I never gave in, never made a deal, and I still don't. It may be harsh, but at least it is completely fair to all of them. lol

If my child refuses to pick their toys up I give them two options. Either they pick their toys up themselves or I pick them up and they become mine. I have earned myself a few toys doing this but for the most part it has worked. If they are mouthing off for some other reason then I will take their favorite toy away till they show me the respect I feel I deserve.