Should children be rewarded for chores or are they part of family routine?

United States
April 16, 2007 11:42am CST
I keep going back and forth on this issue. Should the things I ask my children to do be rewarded and with what? I like to think that they have jobs to do that contribute to the family's routine, but they should be rewarded to learn about responsibilty for their things and money. BUt at the same time, they should fo things like keep their rooms clean simply because it's part of being in the house. Where do you stand?
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@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
20 Apr 07
All three of my kids have chores. They have to do them no matter what. They don't get allowance. They have to do extra chores or work around the house for money. But I will get them something extra at the store or something. When I think they are doing a good job. My teen boy understands why we do it this was and has no problem with it.
@cjthedog64 (1552)
• United States
16 Apr 07
I think basic chores are a requirement. Keeping room cleaned, clothes picked up, toys put away, that sort of thing. Then there are the chores that help out the family - setting & clearing the table, feeding the dogs, light sweeping or vacuuming, etc. Those need to be done and we use them for allowances. Extra harder stuff like yard work we give a little bonus for. Of course, all these things depend on the kid's age and ability. But everyone needs to do their part.
@jchampany (1130)
• United States
16 Apr 07
I have my kids do chores. I slowly work them into them according to their age. Now that my son is 8 and has many more chores than he used to and more than his little sister, I give him allowance. I didn't start out giving him allowance because I also wanted him to understand how to manage money. When it came time for the allowance we discussed the money, that it was his to buy what he wants, he can save it for something big or spend it as he gets it. We talked about the pros and cons of both and why he is getting the allowance now.
@Zorrogirl (1502)
• South Africa
16 Apr 07
i think rewards is a must. but not the physicall type all the time. a star chart works well for them for the tiniest chore where they do chores towards a bigger reward. it also helps them later in life to expect to be praised for achievements. they get a type of self worth because they know everything is apreciated.and later in life they will apreciate things others do for them because they were taught that way. big special chores could be rewarded with all kinds of things. and they will also learn with hard work, comes results. it will definately build their discipline. learning at school will later be rewarded with a good job. it cant do any harm.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
16 Apr 07
In our family, my kids have certain responsibilities. The know the chores that they are to do as being part of the family. If they go above and beyond, they do get money. If they are trying to make some money for something special, I will give them additional chores to do and they will get paid for it.
@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
16 Apr 07
I think kids should help around the house just because as a family you should help each other out. My step-daughter gets an allowance which isnt tied to chores or she'd never get it. She is great at offering to do something after you already have it half done.