Getting Married
By uncducks
@uncducks (31)
United States
4 responses
@suthernsmooth (54)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Hi Uncducks (cute name & avatar!);
I've not heard of this being done but I think it's a fantastic idea! The wedding day is all about the Bride and what a loving tribute to you and her Father. To have the both of you there and sharing such a wonderful moment, to walk her down the aisle and "give her away" to her new Husband. It's something that should have always been done. Moms don't have to just sit on the sidelines like they have in the past, be proud of her for wanting you to be a part of this new tradition.
I've been married for 22 years now and I wish, still to this day, that my Father and Mother both had been there for me. My Dad passed away when I was 16 and my Mom refused to even come to my wedding. My wedding didn't turn out like I'd hoped, I wanted my Mom to walk me down the aisle since my Dad couldn't; but when she refused, my memories still have that sadness attached to them.
Let this wedding contain nothing but happiness for all concerned. Your Daughter sounds like a wonderful woman for wanting you both to be there with her for her wedding. :)
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Hello Uncducks,
I have heard of the Father or the Mother, if no Father is able to walk the Bride down the aisle. But, never both.
However, that doesn't mean that it would be taboo.
Since ours is no longer a patriarchal society (which is where the tradition has its roots), the Father is no longer giving, trading, or selling the Bride to the future Husband. Instead, it is mutually approved. So, I rather like the idea. It symbolizes your daughter's equal love and respect for both parents.
You might want to make sure all three of you will be able to comfortably walk down the width of the aisle at the church though. It could get real ugly if the three of you are tripping over each other.
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
16 Apr 07
In this day and age people are setting their own rules for weddings. Why not have the mother walk down the aisle as well as the father. She has just as important as the father is. She contributed to her growing up as much if not more than the father. So take joy in the fact that she wants you to walk her down the aisle along with her father.
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@allshookup (598)
• United States
16 Apr 07
No, I've never heard of that but I certainly wouldn't rebuff it. Sounds close and sentimental to me :)
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