I Have no friends...

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I'm overexaggerating.. I have friends, but I'm beginning to feel very dissatisfied with my current situation. Most of my friends are men, I get along with men better and I don't feel as much pressure around them to be fun or outgoing or catty like I do around women. I like men, but I think the fact that 3/4 of my friends are guys is a bit much for my boyfriend at times. He has female friends, but he definitely has more male friends than women. I have a few female friends here in my city, but I have a hard time connecting to them on a deep level like I used to with my female friends back in school in my hometown. Most of them it's all I can muster to call them up once a week to reconnect. We usually make plans to go for coffee that never really happen, and I feel the distance between us becoming more and more everytime we talk. I'm closer with a few women I don't live anywhere near, and can't visit more than once a year or so (if that), and I wish I had more friends like them here. My boyfriend has a core group of friends that he spends a lot of time with. They go out on their motorbikes, go for breakfast/lunch/beers at least once a week when he's in town, catch a movie, etc. and I feel like a burden sometimes when I can tell he wants to spend time with his friends but knows I have no plans of my own. Men were easy to meet -- I meet men everywhere.. coffee shops, bars, bookstores, online, gay and straight, and most of them are great guys that I can't see myself with romantically (especially since I'm in a committed relationship) but who I could definitely see as friends. I hate reading Cosmo or advice columns because they mention things like 'getting together with the girls' or ladies' cocktail nights and I just simply don't have enough close women friends to make things like that happen. I'm also not in the greatest spot financially, so I can't really afford to join any group, and I'm not athletically inclined so I can't really join a sports team (I'm also more of a solo person when it comes to exercise!), so how does one meet people for friendship? It sucks, because I personally think I'm pretty happy flying solo most of the time, but like I said, I sort of feel like a burden on my boyfriend a lot of the time and it might be nice to have one or two good girl-friends to talk to. Anyone have any suggestions that are cheap or free on where people go to strike up friendships? I feel so pathetic. :(