Compulsive Disorder Problem

United States
April 16, 2007 11:05pm CST
I'm not sure if that is what you would call this problem that my husband has or not, but he constantly bugs me about every little thing. If one little thing is out of place he has a fit. He will scream at me at the top of his lungs. I find this to be abusive. Then he always says he can't help it because he has compulsive disorder and he has to have things a certain way, and organized a certain way. Well, his ways are not necessarily my ways. I'm not a pig, and my home is clean. I have some things out, but those are things I use on a daily basis. I think he is just being overbearing and controlling. I really don't think I can put up with this attitude of his much longer. I'm in my 40s, he is in his early 50s, we've been together for 6 years now. What do you think?
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miamilady
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I think it is a problem. I don't know if it is truly OCD or not, but I think if he is screaming at you, then you guys (or he) should get some kind of help. Good luck.
SanDslnrs
@SanDslnrs (268)
• United States
18 Apr 07
It is definitely at problem, and I've spoken to him about counseling, he said he knows he needs help with this. So we'll see. Thanks for responding.
theproperator
@theproperator (2429)
• United States
17 Apr 07
Well, it certainly sounds like your husband has a problem; although I couldn't tell you if it is OCD or if he is just a controlling jerk. :-) Question, does he only get upset when it is YOU who have put something out of place, or is he very compulsive about putting everything back "just so" himself? Also, has he seen someone (a professional)about this problem? Because it sounds like he should do something; screaming at you is sure not the way to deal with things, no matter what the cause. Even if this is a real disorder he has, I'm sure he doesn't deal with it by screaming when he is at work or with his friends, so he probably has some control over it that he could excersise when dealing with you as well. I hope you can get him to talk to a professional about this, because you are right, it can be a form of abuse. Good LUck.
SanDslnrs
@SanDslnrs (268)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I agree he should see someone for help. He can control it some or most of the time with other people, but he has lost it with friends and coworkers as well. He wants all his clothes a certain way, no dishes in the sink, his shoes in one spot. It drives me crazy! I'm beginning to really see him as being a control freak, and I'm seriously thinking of leaving. It's a problem he really needs to get counseling on. Thanks for your comments!