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bcreative @bcreative (16) • United States 7 Jul 08

I have a little 8 month old grandaughter living fairly close to me. I want to help and get to know her better. My daughter in law discourages me from being around her except just for very short periods of time. I can only hold...

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bcreative The "helping" part is a whole other side of this. The parents really are exhausted from work, house and childcare. Whenever I offer help the words, "no thank you" ring out every time.

8 Jul 08

bcreative @bcreative (16) • United States 7 Jul 08

I have a little 8 month old grandaughter living fairly close to me. I want to help and get to know her better. My daughter in law discourages me from being around her except just for very short periods of time. I can only hold...

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bcreative Thank you. Never easy to bring things out in the open since that often results in arguments. But I know it is often the only thing that works.

8 Jul 08

bcreative @bcreative (16) • United States 7 Jul 08

I have a little 8 month old grandaughter living fairly close to me. I want to help and get to know her better. My daughter in law discourages me from being around her except just for very short periods of time. I can only hold...

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bcreative Excellent insight. She does feel she is the only one who knows parenting at least with this child. She lets dad help but he's the only one other then day care provider while she works. It worries me that they never go out alone. Even the occassional get...

8 Jul 08

bcreative @bcreative (16) • United States 7 Jul 08

I have a little 8 month old grandaughter living fairly close to me. I want to help and get to know her better. My daughter in law discourages me from being around her except just for very short periods of time. I can only hold...

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bcreative Thank you for your input. The other grandparents come to visit from out of state but they're not welcome too often. They are also on dad's side of the family. The maternal grandmother, aunts and uncles are living in Spain and not in a position to come to the...

8 Jul 08

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bcreative @bcreative (16) • United States 7 Jul 08

I have a little 8 month old grandaughter living fairly close to me. I want to help and get to know her better. My daughter in law discourages me from being around her except just for very short periods of time. I can only hold...

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bcreative Thank you. There does seem to be an instinctive love between Grandma and baby. At least I do get a big smile whenever she sees me. Thanks for the encouragement.

8 Jul 08

bcreative @bcreative (16) • United States 7 Jul 08

I have a little 8 month old grandaughter living fairly close to me. I want to help and get to know her better. My daughter in law discourages me from being around her except just for very short periods of time. I can only hold...

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bcreative very supportive. Thank you. My son is insisting on regular visits though brief at least the baby gets to know who I am.

8 Jul 08

bcreative @bcreative (16) • United States 7 Jul 08

I have a little 8 month old grandaughter living fairly close to me. I want to help and get to know her better. My daughter in law discourages me from being around her except just for very short periods of time. I can only hold...

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bcreative Thank you! That is just what I'm doing and hoping for.

8 Jul 08

bcreative @bcreative (16) • United States 7 Jul 08

I have a little 8 month old grandaughter living fairly close to me. I want to help and get to know her better. My daughter in law discourages me from being around her except just for very short periods of time. I can only hold...

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bcreative Thank you. Alot has to be worked out here. Since I came here a year ago, all talking has been through my son. She doesn't seem to want to communicate with me. Hoping since I got my own place she will be more open with the baby.

8 Jul 08

bcreative @bcreative (16) • United States 7 Jul 08

I have a little 8 month old grandaughter living fairly close to me. I want to help and get to know her better. My daughter in law discourages me from being around her except just for very short periods of time. I can only hold...

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bcreative There is no shame but I do get the feeling she sees me as an "outsider" because I am not Latino. She insisted the baby go to a Latino day care and surrounds her only with her culture. Thank you.

8 Jul 08

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