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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

abusive husband

emotional abuse

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PunkyMcPunk Your husband doesn't hate you or frankly I don't think he would be with you. He is coming home from work angry and grumpy. Maybe he is not getting enough sleep, maybe he is stressed out because of work. He might want to look for a different job if this one is...

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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rainqueen21 it simple when they treat you like that give them a dose of their own medicine stop being a submissive wife and be just as dominating as he is ( thats how me and my husband get along so well) we tell each other every day if you were submissive i would have...

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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4cuteboys Wow, that doesnt sound like a good situation at all. Is it always like that, or does he chill out sometimes? It seems like pretty controlling behavior. If you don't have anywhere to go, maybe go to a shelter for awhile to think about things. I know that isn't...

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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kpbhuvana I think this is always a problem with the men , they always get fed up with womens. They like to dominate . I always deal things like this the same way as he treats .If u stop worring about them then they would feel our importance. If that doesnt work then u...

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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vivekkeshri07 ya ..this kind of problem is too common and that need only the supports of the situation . life is full of difficulties and also full of the enjoy and happy...its a not a matter that if there is unhappiness or the undesirable situation ...then u may get...

13 May 07

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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xfallenxlostx i don't think your husband hates you. He isn't treating you well, though, and you need to talk to him about it. Tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him you think he hates you. Stop following all his orders. You are not his slave, you are his wife. Remind him...

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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Abbyhu How unimaginable to me!That's your husband and you lived with him 9 yrs. His behavoir must be problemtic. I think you should have a formal talk with him and try to find out the problem. This problem must be solve,or your wedlock can't have happiness and...

13 May 07

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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naturebug I'am guessing that he is normally not like this because if he was after 9years it would no bother you so much. Well anyways my guess would be that he is trying to push you away, now the question is; why is he doing that? Two reason immediately strikes my mind...

13 May 07

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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naturebug I'am guessing that he is normally not like this because if he was after 9years it would no bother you so much. Well anyways my guess would be that he is trying to push you away, now the question is; why is he doing that? Two reason immediately strikes my mind...

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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xiqechill well, i've got a friend who had the situation just like you, the different is their not husband and wife. but they had a relationship about 6 years. it took 2 years for her to get her ex out of her life. but it worths to try. cause now, she has a good life and...

13 May 07

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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xiqechill can you live alone by yourself, without him? if you can, leave him. Later if he wants to have you back and you want to be back with him, you can make him talk to you and listen to you about his problem if he wants this relationship works.

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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joice86 Oh, i feel sorry for that one. You should just try to talk to him when he is in a nice mood and try to ask him if there's something wrong. Maybe he got a big problem now and he does not know how to solve it, that's why he is just getting back to you. In...

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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wifeofharvey You said things have been okay, but not great. So I think that means this is new behavior for your husband. I think you should wait until he has had a good dinner, and is not in the middle of something and ask him, honestly, quietly how you can help him. It...

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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Gemmygirl1 I think you need to start standing up for yourself, he's not your boss, you & he, in a marriage, are supposed to be equals. Maybe over dinner you could ask him why he acts that way towards you, maybe he just really hates his job & takes it out on you when he...

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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mrsbrian well I would not let it continue no matter what the reason or wether i had somewhere to go or not.and you not having a child should have nothing to do with the way he is treating you. I would tell him he could sit down and we will talk about it or HE could be...

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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mrsbrian I would wonder has he always been this way or is this some new behavior for him? If it is somehting new than I would think that there is something bothering him that he is not ready to talk about yet. I would try to find some quiet time to maby get him to talk...

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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Whisp1976 Judy gave you the right advice. Do not put up with crap or abuse from anybody. Life is much too short for that.

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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palonghorn The last time my ex-husband said, 'well why don't you just leave' I DID! He was the same way, and nothing I ever did was good enough, we argued (I wasn't one to just stand there and take it!) And like you, for a long time I made excuses for him and his...

13 May 07

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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shinjiao I think you should leave him.You needn't spend your time on a husband who are so rude to you.He doesn't respect you and your contribution to the family,why you have to tolerate him bad temper?You should have the free to choose your life.Leave him and you may...

13 May 07

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freelancerotf @freelancerotf (44) • United States 7 May 07

I have been married 9 yrs and things have been okay. Not great, but okay. Sometimes my husband is very quiet and he won't tell me why. When he comes home he's always agitated and mean spirited. Example: One day, last week he...

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judyt00 Call his bluff, Leave! You don't deserve to be treated like dirt. i think you'll find he is also screwing around on you. Leave, go to a shelter, or ask your minister for help. Then go to legal aid and get support from him.

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