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lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Hello vandana, Thank you for your response. Well I guess you do make a difficult situation easier, by using,little white lies,which you say do not harm anybody, and it keeps everybody happy.In my case even if I did do as you do, which I would not feel...

18 Aug 09

lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Hi neelianoscet, Thank you for your response. I see you had a hard time also,, but you finally succeeded,,Good for You. I also do not want to hurt or upset my friends, or family, but I now am believing more and more that it is time for me to begin to say...

17 Aug 09

lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Hi ChrysanTflower, Thank you for your response. You are right, I should be able to say yes, when I can, and want to and NO if I cannot, because it is impossible. It will take some time, but I will try and start doing the right thing....telling the...

17 Aug 09

lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Hello, yogesh0505 thank you for your response. Before I wrote this problem, I was sure no one else had, I to believed it was ok for me to feel hurt rather than have my friends be hurt. But, just read what all the others wrote to me and you know what I...

17 Aug 09

lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Well kitty42, I think everyone will know by now, that you are not the type of person to be pushed around, and you can say "NO" Good for you. On the other hand, We the ones who cannot, will all be trying our best to do so. Thank you for ALL your...

17 Aug 09

lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Hello kl_blueknight, Very nice of you to respond,thank you. Please do me a favor and read what other people, Just like you and I who have been through, all the crap, just like you and I they have put up with, and really listen to yourself and try real...

17 Aug 09

lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Thank you again asadbtk

17 Aug 09

lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Hi asadbtk, thank you for the response. One of my cousins, did the very same thing you did, he lost his money, and his (so called friends) and of course at the time he also could not say NO, but just like you,,he sure can now. A very difficult and costly...

17 Aug 09

lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Hi Wentyishere, Thank you for your response, I think after reading all the responses I received, especially one incrediable one I am sure going to try real hard, and yes you are so right,,it will not be easy, but I truly think Best Friends, should not...

17 Aug 09

lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Hello Hatley,thank you for your incrediable response. Wow!Friends really can be unbelievably, just plain mean, as you have clearly pointed out.I cannot understand,why!! 1- she asks you to do her a favor,to bring her books,because she cannot leave her...

17 Aug 09

lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Thank you Tim,for the kind words, about my first discussion, I am happy you think it is an interesting topic,, I believe it is not the amount of friends you have,thats important. It may be one, or twenty one,but to me what is important is that...

17 Aug 09

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lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Wow!!! dorannmwin Now that is something I can relate to,I also put myself in somewhat,of the same situation, but it was not as crouded as your home was, my I guess sometimes, it takes just one friend, to take over our lives, all because we wanted to be there...

17 Aug 09

lisell12 @lisell12 (21) 15 Aug 09

I am,I hate to say NO,because I am afraid to hurt my friends feelings, even though it puts me on the spot,and makes me do things I really don't want to, such as when my friend calls and asks if she can come visit me, and ends...

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lisell12 Thank you,for your response,, I guess I do need to begin to start saying NO, even if it is something that is going to be very difficult to do, but now you say your life is better, because the real friends stayed with you for who you are and not for what you...

17 Aug 09

timhinyy @timhinyy (1653) • United States 20 Jul 09

hello everyone its been awhile since i posted anything on here, just have been busy doing lots of other things, and have not gotten on here to post in awhile. I will try to be on here more as i really like this site it is alot of...

long absence

mylot

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lisell12 Thank you so much for taking the time to welcome me to MyLot. It was very kind of you. I do hope we get to know each other, and become friends, BarBararz. Thanks again for the kind welcome, I truly appreciate it, very very much.

22 Jul 09

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