Love her or fight her? It's your call.

I hate it when people walk out of an argument, especially if it is my bf coz i wanna solve it straught away. However, if we are both very upset it might be a good idea to go our different ways for an hour or so to calm down.. We do not fight often, but whne we do - we really do =)

I have really never been into fighting with people-- and I tend to make a case for "talking about it later" if someone starts to get all fired up and hot-tempered about something. At age 46, I can count on one hand the number of times I have gotten in a "shouting match" with someone. Whereas some people (evidently) feel the need to "blow up" on a regular basis, I haven't found that it works as a way to resolve issues. I am very oriented to talking about issues, rather than letting them slide, or pushing them under the rug until a nasty explosion ensues. Oddly enough, it seems to be one of my "lifelessons" to surround myself with non-communicative people who say "I can't talk about that!" OR who explode into anger... perhaps because it was the model I was raised with. I think it is much better to TALK about issues, than FIGHT about them.

I know walking away is the smart thing to do but it drives me crazy when someone does that to me. I'm single at the moment so it's not a problem but in the past when this has happened I admit I've usually followed them out the door still screaming at them! Hmmm - this could be why I'm single actually!

Personally I think it's best when you walk away from each other. It gives you time to think, cool off and then approach the issue with a clear mind and held tongue. I think it saves a lot of heartache too. You defintely don't want to just ignore the issue though. I think it does need to be discussed, but probably more so when you're both clear headed and not angry.

I am very ballistic when upset, my poor boyfriend can attest to that. I know I have hurt him this way. Actually I'd rather be held, embraced, in the middle of my oral fireworks. I hope my boyfriend will soon realize this. I know he wants me to control my temper, and he can help me by just taking me close to him. My boyfriend hasn't been upset with me, hasn't raised his voice because of anger, although we have had some heated discussions before. I know he loves me. In time I know we'll be able to work out a way to deal with our fights.

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We both like to walk away when there is a heated argument going and I think it is wise that way. I personally don't like to argue and I don't like the sound of anyone yellig at me at all. So, we are pretty good at letting things be and than coming back to talk about them when we are all cooled down.

Good one! Well my usually avoids me when he knows Im mad. But when hes mad we usually argue. And in the end of screaming and yelling no one is ever right or wrong. I hate to argue. But I think its good to get things out in the open rather then to avoid.

Yes well I have had to walk away sometimes from an argument so that it does not get worse than what it looks like it is heading for. It is hard when you have an argument with our partners, and they should listen to our side of things as that way the problems can get sorted out. Oh yes my husband can boil right over the top don't worry about that!! When he walks away I let him and about 10 minutes after that I will go and find him and talk to him and explain my side of things and normally he is alright then. Yes he is smart in that way maybe I do this as well as I am part french myself.

Most men don't respond well to harshness. It's not something they have been taught to deal with. They know work, make love, work, eat, make love, be happy. When anger is pushed in their direction the only thing they know is to walk away. It's not really within their realm of understanding to argue or fight with a woman. Besides, men think women don't play fair when it comes to arguments.

I always maintain my cool in an argument. I don't shout back, I don't say unnecessary curses... but my words do sting, no matter how gently and softly I deliver them. It hits the guy to the core. My ex-husband never backed-out from any tongue-lashing. He gets heated up and talk and talk and when he can't find an answer anymore, he takes the punch and leave me with my bruised face. He gets back, say nothing, like nothing happened and then do it again the next time he sees the opportunity to prove who's wearing the trousers in the house. I let him do that to me for a year, until I left him to fend for myself, I got enough punch to last a lifetime's memory...

My partner and I are totally different when it comes to arguing. When he gets upset about things he snaps sometimes he can keep a low voice but nine out of ten times he yells. I am the opposite I tell you how I feel and then I just quit talking to you. He will continue to rant and rave thats when I walk away so that we can get time away from each other. Eventually we do discuss the problem but its after everyone has calmed down.

yes, I think your husband is quite right and smart. I am a girl and didn't get married now, if I argue with my boy friend, and I am in angry, no matter what he said, I will not listen. so he will go away and then come back to comfort me when I was a little quiet. I think it is a good method to settle problems.