What would you do about this girl???
By tiffsmom2007
@tiffsmom2007 (279)
United States
April 17, 2007 12:40pm CST
My daughter came home from school last week and told me this girl on her bus was thinking about dating my brother-in-law. I was shocked to say the lest. But I called my mother-in law and asked her how old my brother-in-law was before I really freaked. He's 39 years old this girl says she is 18. Thats not the problem the problem is now this girl, who is supposed to be my daughters friend, keeps getting in her face about me calling my mother-in-law. The lady the girl lives with said "Let them fight". My daughter is 14 as most of you know, she also has alot of bottled up anger inside of her. So should I let them fight, which I don't want to, or what. My daughter is about 2 foot taller than this girl, but still the girl is 18 and from where I'm from you are considered an adult at 18. What would you do?????
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@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
17 Apr 07
Physically fighting is hardly any resolution to any problem and represents poor coping skills. I have a fourteen year old daughter and she is not allowed to fight with anyone under any circumstances, although I know girls her age do this frequently. Since your daughter has an anger issue, fighting should be discouraged and she should be encouraged to talk more about her feelings rather than take them out in a girl fight. Also, she needs to stay away from the other girl. There's something wrong with any teenager, who wants to date a 39 year old man.
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@tiffsmom2007 (279)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I told my daughter yesterday "Do Not fight that girl no matter what she says to you" and she said she doesn't want to fight he and now this girl is calling my child a s!ut. If the girl didn't wantanybody to know she was gonna date this man she should have kept her mouth shut. The people this girl lives with is all about fighting for the smallest things and they fight dirty, 3 on 1. I will talk to my daughter again and make her understand that she shouldn't fight this girl no matter what.
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@loved1 (5328)
• United States
17 Apr 07
That is good advice. Fighting usually just leads to more fighting. As far as the name calling goes, sticks and stones. Tell her by blowing off this girl she is acutally winning the fight. The reason she is calling your daughter names is becuse she wants her to lose her temper. If she keeps her anger under control, she wins. Best wishes to you.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I would never condone fighting. It is not the solution to anything. If you tell your daughter that it is ok to fight, you are teaching her a very bad lesson. Tell her to stay away from this girl. If they are real friends, the other girl will get over it. If not, your daughter doesn't need friends like that.
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@tiffsmom2007 (279)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I don't tell her it is okay to fight. I've always told her not to fight anybody. I even embareassed her in school last year because she was trying to fight a little girl over a rumor, it was parents night, when I heard about it I went looking for them. I found them in the girls bathroom surrounded by about 10 girls. I gave my daughter the 3rd degre in front of her friends about fighting. She knows not to fight but what if this girls jumps her? That is my main concern, this girl jumping my daughter. What if my daughter doesn't defend herself and what do I do if the girls Aunt and her husband jump in like they are known to do?
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@tiffsmom2007 (279)
• United States
17 Apr 07
If they had it down here believe me I would enroll her. Not to teach her to fight but because I heard it is also a great way to learn and gain inner peace.
@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I dont believe fighting is ever the answer. Tell your daughter to walk away. What happens between the girl and your brother in law is not really your business. Who told the girl you called ? It sounds like there are other problems in your life already dont take on more. If your daughter needs an outlet for her anger try and find a cheap boxing bag that she can punch away on without anyone getting hurt.
@tiffsmom2007 (279)
• United States
17 Apr 07
My brother-in-law told her that I called and he also lied to the girl about what was said. I already told him and the girls aunt that he is a lier. I also told them I didn't give a damn if they dated each other or not but the girl needs to leave my daughter out of it. I feel if the girl has something to say about me calling she should get in my face about it. I told her Aunt that too.
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